just so suave
Senior Don Juan
Nice man, just be sure to keep your hair shaped up, and shave the hair at the back of your head.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Yeah definitely work on looking the best you can like naes did, because you will feel good for making the effort as well as looking good. I truly believe that 99% of people could look good if they worked at it hard enough.LostAndConfused said:Honestly, would you approach an HB1 if she was the coolest person on earth, wanting to go out with her?
I wouldn't. Maybe to chat her up a bit, because she's interesting to talk to, but I would NEVER go out with her.
Its a double standard here folks, why would you expect women to just look at your personality if you're butt ugly?
The key here is to work on improving your looks to the best of your ability, like naes did, and afterward to shape your personality.
exactlyLostAndConfused said:Honestly, would you approach an HB1 if she was the coolest person on earth, wanting to go out with her?
I wouldn't. Maybe to chat her up a bit, because she's interesting to talk to, but I would NEVER go out with her.
Its a double standard here folks, why would you expect women to just look at your personality if you're butt ugly?
The key here is to work on improving your looks to the best of your ability, like naes did, and afterward to shape your personality.
ok, weellll, i used to be that kid who came to school in pajama pants and some old sweater, i looked greasy and never cut my hair, i just didnt give a **** about anything execpt smoking some dank weed and getting the **** out of school each day..brett012 said:I HAVE to know this: exactly how nice are you dressing? What exact clothes? I want this attention too! Then again maybe it's different in high school.
i dont think its as much as my clothes as it is the overall transformation and now people being able to see my whole face and body, i used to have me hair cover my face, and now the full face is visablebrett012 said:well it sure is tougher in college! I can dress to school with a button shirt and a real nice jacket and I won't get as much attention as you.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.