just so suave
Senior Don Juan
Nice man, just be sure to keep your hair shaped up, and shave the hair at the back of your head.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Yeah definitely work on looking the best you can like naes did, because you will feel good for making the effort as well as looking good. I truly believe that 99% of people could look good if they worked at it hard enough.LostAndConfused said:Honestly, would you approach an HB1 if she was the coolest person on earth, wanting to go out with her?
I wouldn't. Maybe to chat her up a bit, because she's interesting to talk to, but I would NEVER go out with her.
Its a double standard here folks, why would you expect women to just look at your personality if you're butt ugly?
The key here is to work on improving your looks to the best of your ability, like naes did, and afterward to shape your personality.
exactlyLostAndConfused said:Honestly, would you approach an HB1 if she was the coolest person on earth, wanting to go out with her?
I wouldn't. Maybe to chat her up a bit, because she's interesting to talk to, but I would NEVER go out with her.
Its a double standard here folks, why would you expect women to just look at your personality if you're butt ugly?
The key here is to work on improving your looks to the best of your ability, like naes did, and afterward to shape your personality.
ok, weellll, i used to be that kid who came to school in pajama pants and some old sweater, i looked greasy and never cut my hair, i just didnt give a **** about anything execpt smoking some dank weed and getting the **** out of school each day..brett012 said:I HAVE to know this: exactly how nice are you dressing? What exact clothes? I want this attention too! Then again maybe it's different in high school.
i dont think its as much as my clothes as it is the overall transformation and now people being able to see my whole face and body, i used to have me hair cover my face, and now the full face is visablebrett012 said:well it sure is tougher in college! I can dress to school with a button shirt and a real nice jacket and I won't get as much attention as you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.