Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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I'm an emotional dumping ground- need help with this...

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So about a week ago this local girl contacted me over Myspace. We hit it off pretty well, have a ton in common (it's scary how much) etc. I'm having a hard time figuring out what her intentions are, though.

The issue is this (and it's kind of complicated):

For the past few days she has been dumping a lot of stuff on me. She's talking about her boyfriend (yes, complicated...) of about 2 months. She's talking about a bunch of crap about him, that they had a big fight and she stopped communicating with him. She's asking me for advice, whether or not she should try to talk to him again or give up.

Now, I am retarded with this kind of thing. Why would she be talking about this to me? I have ideas but I don't want to say why, because I may be wrong.

I'm interested in this girl. I just don't know what her intentions are. We talk on MSN, and she always messages me when I log on, just to talk about stuff.

What should I do? What is SHE doing? I am so confused. I don't want to become a crying shoulder for her. I ultimately would like to perhaps date her.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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She is your best prospect at this time, is that an accurate statement?
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Good call... :up:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Bundee2 said:
For the past few days she has been dumping a lot of stuff on me. She's talking about her boyfriend (yes, complicated...) of about 2 months. She's talking about a bunch of crap about him, that they had a big fight and she stopped communicating with him. She's asking me for advice, whether or not she should try to talk to him again or give up.
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bad sign right there bro. dont bother with her.
 
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Aaron B said:
She is your best prospect at this time, is that an accurate statement?
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Would be very accurate. Let's just say that prospects don't come my way very often.

Ah well.
 
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Would be very accurate. Let's just say that prospects don't come my way very often.

Ah well.
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Which means you will act desperate and needy at the first hint of interest from her.

What are your goals?
 
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So about a week ago this local girl contacted me over Myspace. We hit it off pretty well, have a ton in common (it's scary how much) etc. I'm having a hard time figuring out what her intentions are, though.

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I JUST ME A GIRL ON MYSPACE TOO, ACTULLY IT IS GOING WELL
OK BEING TOO ALIKE CAN GET BORING FAST, AND TO FIGURE OUT WHAT HERE INTENTIONS ARE JUST ASK HER



The issue is this (and it's kind of complicated):

For the past few days she has been dumping a lot of stuff on me.
She's talking about her boyfriend

^^^WOMEN ARE EMOTIONAL PITS, IF SHES HAVING A HORRIBLE CONCSIOUS THOUGHT, SHE IS NEGITIVE AND SHE IS OBSESSIVE

She's talking about a bunch of crap about him, that they had a big fight and she stopped communicating with him. She's asking me for advice, whether or not she should try to talk to him again or give up.

^^^ TELL HER TO STOP TALKING TO HIM BECAUSE IT MAKES HER THINK ABOUT HIM AND THAT MAKES HER SAD, AND IN A BAD MOOD



Now, I am retarded with this kind of thing. Why would she be talking about this to me? I have ideas but I don't want to say why, because I may be wrong.


^^^ SHE TALKS TO YOU THAT WAY BECAUSE YOUR THE ONLY ONE WHO CAN STAND OR TOLIRATE HER AND HER WINEY LITTLE SELF.

I'm interested in this girl. I just don't know what her intentions are. We talk on MSN, and she always messages me when I log on, just to talk about stuff.

^^^^^ SAME THING, MAYBE YOU SHOULD GET HER PHONE NUMBER IF YOUR SO INTRESTED


What should I do? What is SHE doing? I am so confused. I don't want to become a crying shoulder for her. I ultimately would like to perhaps date her

^^ YEAH I AGREE, NOBODY WANTS TO BE AN EMOTIONAL TAMPON , IF YOU WANT TO DATE HER MAN, TAKE THE NESSASARY STEPS.....AND WALK IT OUT......

JUST WALK IT OUT..... ~HOLLOW
 
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Actually, I think I'm giving up. This girl is way too much of a mental case-- she basically sounds like she wants someone to support her so she doesn't have to work, and is ridiculously clingy. She says she expects her boyfriend to spend 90% of his free time with her. Come on... ridiculous

Even I have standards...
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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Bundee2 said:
Actually, I think I'm giving up. This girl is way too much of a mental case-- she basically sounds like she wants someone to support her so she doesn't have to work, and is ridiculously clingy. She says she expects her boyfriend to spend 90% of his free time with her. Come on... ridiculous

Even I have standards...
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There may be hope for you yet :)
 
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