"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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So about a week ago this local girl contacted me over Myspace. We hit it off pretty well, have a ton in common (it's scary how much) etc. I'm having a hard time figuring out what her intentions are, though.

The issue is this (and it's kind of complicated):

For the past few days she has been dumping a lot of stuff on me. She's talking about her boyfriend (yes, complicated...) of about 2 months. She's talking about a bunch of crap about him, that they had a big fight and she stopped communicating with him. She's asking me for advice, whether or not she should try to talk to him again or give up.

Now, I am retarded with this kind of thing. Why would she be talking about this to me? I have ideas but I don't want to say why, because I may be wrong.

I'm interested in this girl. I just don't know what her intentions are. We talk on MSN, and she always messages me when I log on, just to talk about stuff.

What should I do? What is SHE doing? I am so confused. I don't want to become a crying shoulder for her. I ultimately would like to perhaps date her.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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She is your best prospect at this time, is that an accurate statement?
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Good call... :up:
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Bundee2 said:
For the past few days she has been dumping a lot of stuff on me. She's talking about her boyfriend (yes, complicated...) of about 2 months. She's talking about a bunch of crap about him, that they had a big fight and she stopped communicating with him. She's asking me for advice, whether or not she should try to talk to him again or give up.
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bad sign right there bro. dont bother with her.
 
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Aaron B said:
She is your best prospect at this time, is that an accurate statement?
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Would be very accurate. Let's just say that prospects don't come my way very often.

Ah well.
 
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Would be very accurate. Let's just say that prospects don't come my way very often.

Ah well.
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Which means you will act desperate and needy at the first hint of interest from her.

What are your goals?
 
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So about a week ago this local girl contacted me over Myspace. We hit it off pretty well, have a ton in common (it's scary how much) etc. I'm having a hard time figuring out what her intentions are, though.

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I JUST ME A GIRL ON MYSPACE TOO, ACTULLY IT IS GOING WELL
OK BEING TOO ALIKE CAN GET BORING FAST, AND TO FIGURE OUT WHAT HERE INTENTIONS ARE JUST ASK HER



The issue is this (and it's kind of complicated):

For the past few days she has been dumping a lot of stuff on me.
She's talking about her boyfriend

^^^WOMEN ARE EMOTIONAL PITS, IF SHES HAVING A HORRIBLE CONCSIOUS THOUGHT, SHE IS NEGITIVE AND SHE IS OBSESSIVE

She's talking about a bunch of crap about him, that they had a big fight and she stopped communicating with him. She's asking me for advice, whether or not she should try to talk to him again or give up.

^^^ TELL HER TO STOP TALKING TO HIM BECAUSE IT MAKES HER THINK ABOUT HIM AND THAT MAKES HER SAD, AND IN A BAD MOOD



Now, I am retarded with this kind of thing. Why would she be talking about this to me? I have ideas but I don't want to say why, because I may be wrong.


^^^ SHE TALKS TO YOU THAT WAY BECAUSE YOUR THE ONLY ONE WHO CAN STAND OR TOLIRATE HER AND HER WINEY LITTLE SELF.

I'm interested in this girl. I just don't know what her intentions are. We talk on MSN, and she always messages me when I log on, just to talk about stuff.

^^^^^ SAME THING, MAYBE YOU SHOULD GET HER PHONE NUMBER IF YOUR SO INTRESTED


What should I do? What is SHE doing? I am so confused. I don't want to become a crying shoulder for her. I ultimately would like to perhaps date her

^^ YEAH I AGREE, NOBODY WANTS TO BE AN EMOTIONAL TAMPON , IF YOU WANT TO DATE HER MAN, TAKE THE NESSASARY STEPS.....AND WALK IT OUT......

JUST WALK IT OUT..... ~HOLLOW
 
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Actually, I think I'm giving up. This girl is way too much of a mental case-- she basically sounds like she wants someone to support her so she doesn't have to work, and is ridiculously clingy. She says she expects her boyfriend to spend 90% of his free time with her. Come on... ridiculous

Even I have standards...
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Bundee2 said:
Actually, I think I'm giving up. This girl is way too much of a mental case-- she basically sounds like she wants someone to support her so she doesn't have to work, and is ridiculously clingy. She says she expects her boyfriend to spend 90% of his free time with her. Come on... ridiculous

Even I have standards...
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There may be hope for you yet :)
 
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