Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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So about a week ago this local girl contacted me over Myspace. We hit it off pretty well, have a ton in common (it's scary how much) etc. I'm having a hard time figuring out what her intentions are, though.

The issue is this (and it's kind of complicated):

For the past few days she has been dumping a lot of stuff on me. She's talking about her boyfriend (yes, complicated...) of about 2 months. She's talking about a bunch of crap about him, that they had a big fight and she stopped communicating with him. She's asking me for advice, whether or not she should try to talk to him again or give up.

Now, I am retarded with this kind of thing. Why would she be talking about this to me? I have ideas but I don't want to say why, because I may be wrong.

I'm interested in this girl. I just don't know what her intentions are. We talk on MSN, and she always messages me when I log on, just to talk about stuff.

What should I do? What is SHE doing? I am so confused. I don't want to become a crying shoulder for her. I ultimately would like to perhaps date her.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Francisco d'Anconia

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She is your best prospect at this time, is that an accurate statement?
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Good call... :up:
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Bundee2 said:
For the past few days she has been dumping a lot of stuff on me. She's talking about her boyfriend (yes, complicated...) of about 2 months. She's talking about a bunch of crap about him, that they had a big fight and she stopped communicating with him. She's asking me for advice, whether or not she should try to talk to him again or give up.
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bad sign right there bro. dont bother with her.
 
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Aaron B said:
She is your best prospect at this time, is that an accurate statement?
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Would be very accurate. Let's just say that prospects don't come my way very often.

Ah well.
 
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Bundee2 said:
Would be very accurate. Let's just say that prospects don't come my way very often.

Ah well.
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Which means you will act desperate and needy at the first hint of interest from her.

What are your goals?
 
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So about a week ago this local girl contacted me over Myspace. We hit it off pretty well, have a ton in common (it's scary how much) etc. I'm having a hard time figuring out what her intentions are, though.

^^^
I JUST ME A GIRL ON MYSPACE TOO, ACTULLY IT IS GOING WELL
OK BEING TOO ALIKE CAN GET BORING FAST, AND TO FIGURE OUT WHAT HERE INTENTIONS ARE JUST ASK HER



The issue is this (and it's kind of complicated):

For the past few days she has been dumping a lot of stuff on me.
She's talking about her boyfriend

^^^WOMEN ARE EMOTIONAL PITS, IF SHES HAVING A HORRIBLE CONCSIOUS THOUGHT, SHE IS NEGITIVE AND SHE IS OBSESSIVE

She's talking about a bunch of crap about him, that they had a big fight and she stopped communicating with him. She's asking me for advice, whether or not she should try to talk to him again or give up.

^^^ TELL HER TO STOP TALKING TO HIM BECAUSE IT MAKES HER THINK ABOUT HIM AND THAT MAKES HER SAD, AND IN A BAD MOOD



Now, I am retarded with this kind of thing. Why would she be talking about this to me? I have ideas but I don't want to say why, because I may be wrong.


^^^ SHE TALKS TO YOU THAT WAY BECAUSE YOUR THE ONLY ONE WHO CAN STAND OR TOLIRATE HER AND HER WINEY LITTLE SELF.

I'm interested in this girl. I just don't know what her intentions are. We talk on MSN, and she always messages me when I log on, just to talk about stuff.

^^^^^ SAME THING, MAYBE YOU SHOULD GET HER PHONE NUMBER IF YOUR SO INTRESTED


What should I do? What is SHE doing? I am so confused. I don't want to become a crying shoulder for her. I ultimately would like to perhaps date her

^^ YEAH I AGREE, NOBODY WANTS TO BE AN EMOTIONAL TAMPON , IF YOU WANT TO DATE HER MAN, TAKE THE NESSASARY STEPS.....AND WALK IT OUT......

JUST WALK IT OUT..... ~HOLLOW
 
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Actually, I think I'm giving up. This girl is way too much of a mental case-- she basically sounds like she wants someone to support her so she doesn't have to work, and is ridiculously clingy. She says she expects her boyfriend to spend 90% of his free time with her. Come on... ridiculous

Even I have standards...
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Bundee2 said:
Actually, I think I'm giving up. This girl is way too much of a mental case-- she basically sounds like she wants someone to support her so she doesn't have to work, and is ridiculously clingy. She says she expects her boyfriend to spend 90% of his free time with her. Come on... ridiculous

Even I have standards...
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There may be hope for you yet :)
 
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