"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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I'm a virgin at 28 who gets really hard whenever I approach any girl of interest.

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I can't believe at 28, I'm still yet to overcome this big challenge of mine.

It's the sole reason why I can't seem to successfully ask a girl out let alone get into a relationship with them. Because whenever I get hard it points 90degrees poking out like a pole and I usually quickly end the conversation and walk towards the other direction to save me from embarrassing myself in public. Because it would be visible even to the blind.

I don't know how guys control or not get hard, but each time I approach a lady on the streets, clubs, parties, pools, you name it. I get super hard in less than 30seconds of exchanging pleasantries.

Its always so embarrassing when it happens in public.
If my intentions aren't towards dating them, I don't get hard.


When I was in college I had female friends we could talk forever and I won't get hard one bit; At my place of work right now, I'm very good at holding conversations with female colleagues and I never get hard.
But as soon as the thought of me asking them out crosses my mind, I instantly become rock hard.

And it's really funny that, 99% of the time I don't always imagine them being naked. But it just happens.


I really need your help great DJs in the house as this problem is killing me inside.
I've tried masturbating to ease my nerves but it never works.

As anyone faced this challenge before, how were you able to overcome it
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Honestly maybe you should jist grab their hand and put it on your Johnson. Probably would get slapped a lot but you will run across women who would find that a huge turn on...just gotta hope you don't get arrested first hahaha.

I sometimes still have this happen when I am kissing a woman...I make sure to press against her so she notices and then if her hand starts moving I put it on there and it usually really turns them on
 
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I can't believe at 28, I'm still yet to overcome this big challenge of mine.

It's the sole reason why I can't seem to successfully ask a girl out let alone get into a relationship with them. Because whenever I get hard it points 90degrees poking out like a pole and I usually quickly end the conversation and walk towards the other direction to save me from embarrassing myself in public. Because it would be visible even to the blind.

I don't know how guys control or not get hard, but each time I approach a lady on the streets, clubs, parties, pools, you name it. I get super hard in less than 30seconds of exchanging pleasantries.

Its always so embarrassing when it happens in public.
If my intentions aren't towards dating them, I don't get hard.


When I was in college I had female friends we could talk forever and I won't get hard one bit; At my place of work right now, I'm very good at holding conversations with female colleagues and I never get hard.
But as soon as the thought of me asking them out crosses my mind, I instantly become rock hard.

And it's really funny that, 99% of the time I don't always imagine them being naked. But it just happens.


I really need your help great DJs in the house as this problem is killing me inside.
I've tried masturbating to ease my nerves but it never works.

As anyone faced this challenge before, how were you able to overcome it
What a great problem to have.

You could look at it a different way.

That you are more of a radio receiver and women in heat are more of transmitters. Your equipment is working flawlessly. The challenge is that they non-confront that they are transmitters and it's your job to allow yourself to be seduced by them, since women's natural operating state is one of covert communication. So be ok with having a raging hard-on and enjoy it while you are them up. In the grand scheme of things it is a validation of their attractiveness. They wouldn't admit this at first but if she had a choice between her presence causing a raging hard-on or limp d!ck, I'm sure you can guess which one she would choose.
 

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Sounds like my life in the freshman year of HS. Daily wood just walking down the hall and looking at the hotties. It subsides proportionally with the number of dates you have. Cover it and ask them out…
It’s the only cure and when the ask process becomes normal the alarm bell no longer rings.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Briefs or boxer briefs.

Are you becoming otherwise nervous or is it just your Johnson?
The way my mind is wired, I hardly get nervous. I only become nervous at times if for example, I'm in a brightly lit environment and I am chatting with a girl and then I realize my young fellow is also trying to get noticed.
 

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The way my mind is wired, I hardly get nervous. I only become nervous at times if for example, I'm in a brightly lit environment and I am chatting with a girl and then I realize my young fellow is also trying to get noticed.
It’s a biological response created by a scarcity mindset…
 

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Yes, get some dates. To do so wear close fitting jeans in that area and low hanging large sweaters or shirts. Modify the wardrobe and approach without fear…
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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This has to be a joke.
This pic is from the Corona Memes thread. Is this you?
 

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I can't believe at 28, I'm still yet to overcome this big challenge of mine.

It's the sole reason why I can't seem to successfully ask a girl out let alone get into a relationship with them. Because whenever I get hard it points 90degrees poking out like a pole and I usually quickly end the conversation and walk towards the other direction to save me from embarrassing myself in public. Because it would be visible even to the blind.

I don't know how guys control or not get hard, but each time I approach a lady on the streets, clubs, parties, pools, you name it. I get super hard in less than 30seconds of exchanging pleasantries.

Its always so embarrassing when it happens in public.
If my intentions aren't towards dating them, I don't get hard.


When I was in college I had female friends we could talk forever and I won't get hard one bit; At my place of work right now, I'm very good at holding conversations with female colleagues and I never get hard.
But as soon as the thought of me asking them out crosses my mind, I instantly become rock hard.

And it's really funny that, 99% of the time I don't always imagine them being naked. But it just happens.


I really need your help great DJs in the house as this problem is killing me inside.
I've tried masturbating to ease my nerves but it never works.

As anyone faced this challenge before, how were you able to overcome it
Reality is you're going to get more no's than yes's. It's a numbers game. As cliche as it sounds 2 out of 10. That's how guys get into spinning plates. Multiple girls lead to higher success ratio. Get used to rejection. Especially in the battlefield of love...
 

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I can't believe at 28, I'm still yet to overcome this big challenge of mine.

It's the sole reason why I can't seem to successfully ask a girl out let alone get into a relationship with them. Because whenever I get hard it points 90degrees poking out like a pole and I usually quickly end the conversation and walk towards the other direction to save me from embarrassing myself in public. Because it would be visible even to the blind.

I don't know how guys control or not get hard, but each time I approach a lady on the streets, clubs, parties, pools, you name it. I get super hard in less than 30seconds of exchanging pleasantries.

Its always so embarrassing when it happens in public.
If my intentions aren't towards dating them, I don't get hard.


When I was in college I had female friends we could talk forever and I won't get hard one bit; At my place of work right now, I'm very good at holding conversations with female colleagues and I never get hard.
But as soon as the thought of me asking them out crosses my mind, I instantly become rock hard.

And it's really funny that, 99% of the time I don't always imagine them being naked. But it just happens.


I really need your help great DJs in the house as this problem is killing me inside.
I've tried masturbating to ease my nerves but it never works.

As anyone faced this challenge before, how were you able to overcome it
Switch to briefs or boxer briefs with spandex. That will keep your Johnson close to your body. Though, you may sweat a lot. Look into the ones from Under Armour. They have moisture wicking material.

You could also just put your hand in you pants when this happens. Possibly flip your penis up so your pants hold it against your body. Takes practice, but that's what I did in HS.

Why are you 28 and still a virgin? I only read your first post, so IDNK if you posted anything else. Are you a Mormon?
 

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it's the pleats:

 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I can't believe at 28, I'm still yet to overcome this big challenge of mine.

It's the sole reason why I can't seem to successfully ask a girl out let alone get into a relationship with them. Because whenever I get hard it points 90degrees poking out like a pole and I usually quickly end the conversation and walk towards the other direction to save me from embarrassing myself in public. Because it would be visible even to the blind.

I don't know how guys control or not get hard, but each time I approach a lady on the streets, clubs, parties, pools, you name it. I get super hard in less than 30seconds of exchanging pleasantries.

Its always so embarrassing when it happens in public.
If my intentions aren't towards dating them, I don't get hard.


When I was in college I had female friends we could talk forever and I won't get hard one bit; At my place of work right now, I'm very good at holding conversations with female colleagues and I never get hard.
But as soon as the thought of me asking them out crosses my mind, I instantly become rock hard.

And it's really funny that, 99% of the time I don't always imagine them being naked. But it just happens.


I really need your help great DJs in the house as this problem is killing me inside.
I've tried masturbating to ease my nerves but it never works.

As anyone faced this challenge before, how were you able to overcome it
Dang dude, I need extra attention in bed to get totally hard with a hot girl That said I do get hard sometimes when kissing or otherwise having her rub her ass on me when holding her. This is purely a mental thing. In bed I'm psychologically trained to last so it takes extra effort to get all the way there. Train yourself mentally or maybe try social circle dating to lose your virginity. Once the pressure is relieved it shouldn't be bad.

Stop thinking of having sex with her while approaching. Don't picture it. Picture baseball or something boring.
 

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Reality is you're going to get more no's than yes's. It's a numbers game. As cliche as it sounds 2 out of 10. That's how guys get into spinning plates. Multiple girls lead to higher success ratio. Get used to rejection. Especially in the battlefield of love...
This. I find the more girls I have at one time, the higher my success ratio gets. Women can sense that extra confidence and lack of hunger you exude when you have multiple girls you are sleeping with. Success literally breeds success. Best time to get a girls number? After you got one already. Best time to get more plates? When you already have one. Finding women while already tied up was interesting. I was naturally scarce and unavailable compared to the competition. All I heard from the girls I was sleeping with is how they don't see me enough. The competition was always available and thus less desirable overall. In the end it's always a numbers game though.
 

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This. I find the more girls I have at one time, the higher my success ratio gets. Women can sense that extra confidence and lack of hunger you exude when you have multiple girls you are sleeping with. Success literally breeds success. Best time to get a girls number? After you got one already. Best time to get more plates? When you already have one. Finding women while already tied up was interesting. I was naturally scarce and unavailable compared to the competition. All I heard from the girls I was sleeping with is how they don't see me enough. The competition was always available and thus less desirable overall. In the end it's always a numbers game though.
Even if I don't close out with a date. Most of the time it branches out to connecting to their instagram. Vs having nothing I like connecting and having a long friends list on social media. When I want to look at a hot girl just sign in and boom an old connection posting pictures in a bikini. It's always the entrance to having plates knowing what they're doing in their free time from their social media...
 

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dude try to conquer your fear...It is possible that if you tried it once you will do it every time and you will be looking for that thing. LOL
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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