"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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I'm a social holic

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Because of SoSuave my social life has increased tremendously. The problem is, on nights when I don't go out (like tonight). I get depressed and start questioning my true friends, my motives, my life, everything.

Maybe it won't happen when I get my license and can go sarging by myself and ****, but for another month or two I'm stuck like this :(
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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TheNewGuy said:
The problem is, on nights when I don't go out (like tonight). I get depressed and start questioning my true friends, my motives, my life, everything.
I get that too.. it's annoying indeed. Also my parents don't let me be independent so that bugs me too.
 

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TheNewGuy said:
Maybe it won't happen when I get my license and can go sarging by myself and ****, but for another month or two I'm stuck like this :(
Moved to HS.
 

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How's bout joinin' a club or something? That'll keep you occupied. Or better yet, yeah, join a sports team, trust me you'll be so tired at night you won't want to go out, you'll just want to sleep.
 

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MrConfidence said:
How's bout joinin' a club or something? That'll keep you occupied. Or better yet, yeah, join a sports team, trust me you'll be so tired at night you won't want to go out, you'll just want to sleep.
The reason why I didn't go out tonight was because I fell at like 3 and didn't wake up until about 8. By the time I finished the work that I needed to do I couldn't go out :(

dot said:
Also my parents don't let me be independent so that bugs me too.
Yeah, same here. Hopefully it'll change with my license.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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TheNewGuy

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Noob said:
i can totally understand where your coming from... since becoming a don juan my 'highs' are even higher, but my 'lows' are even lower. if that makes any sense
Thats exactly what I mean. Big highs and even bigger lows.

Does anyone know why this happens, or what we can do to solve it?
 

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Same thing, it's because we are defining ourselves by these results.
 

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Still defining. You want to get out and have fun, but instead, you're sucker stuck in a house.

Meh. Invest in a guitar or something.
 

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I know what you guys mean. Getting a license helps, but there's no real way to fix that.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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thats my problem as well.
in the road to becoming an active don juna, you should become mroe social, but you're happiness shouldnt depend on your social-levle. you should be able to enjoy your alone time. every now and then I take a night off for self-please. I usually watch a movie, do some drugs[lol dont suggest this haha] or sleep it off. or do family oriented thigns. last night i went to a movie and dinner with my family. your fmaily will really like that fact that evne though to have a social life, you're not cutting them out entirely.
i suggest the family thing.
 
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