"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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I'm a social holic

TheNewGuy

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Because of SoSuave my social life has increased tremendously. The problem is, on nights when I don't go out (like tonight). I get depressed and start questioning my true friends, my motives, my life, everything.

Maybe it won't happen when I get my license and can go sarging by myself and ****, but for another month or two I'm stuck like this :(
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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dot

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TheNewGuy said:
The problem is, on nights when I don't go out (like tonight). I get depressed and start questioning my true friends, my motives, my life, everything.
I get that too.. it's annoying indeed. Also my parents don't let me be independent so that bugs me too.
 

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TheNewGuy said:
Maybe it won't happen when I get my license and can go sarging by myself and ****, but for another month or two I'm stuck like this :(
Moved to HS.
 

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How's bout joinin' a club or something? That'll keep you occupied. Or better yet, yeah, join a sports team, trust me you'll be so tired at night you won't want to go out, you'll just want to sleep.
 

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MrConfidence said:
How's bout joinin' a club or something? That'll keep you occupied. Or better yet, yeah, join a sports team, trust me you'll be so tired at night you won't want to go out, you'll just want to sleep.
The reason why I didn't go out tonight was because I fell at like 3 and didn't wake up until about 8. By the time I finished the work that I needed to do I couldn't go out :(

dot said:
Also my parents don't let me be independent so that bugs me too.
Yeah, same here. Hopefully it'll change with my license.
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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TheNewGuy

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Noob said:
i can totally understand where your coming from... since becoming a don juan my 'highs' are even higher, but my 'lows' are even lower. if that makes any sense
Thats exactly what I mean. Big highs and even bigger lows.

Does anyone know why this happens, or what we can do to solve it?
 

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Same thing, it's because we are defining ourselves by these results.
 

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Still defining. You want to get out and have fun, but instead, you're sucker stuck in a house.

Meh. Invest in a guitar or something.
 

Bling

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I know what you guys mean. Getting a license helps, but there's no real way to fix that.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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thats my problem as well.
in the road to becoming an active don juna, you should become mroe social, but you're happiness shouldnt depend on your social-levle. you should be able to enjoy your alone time. every now and then I take a night off for self-please. I usually watch a movie, do some drugs[lol dont suggest this haha] or sleep it off. or do family oriented thigns. last night i went to a movie and dinner with my family. your fmaily will really like that fact that evne though to have a social life, you're not cutting them out entirely.
i suggest the family thing.
 
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