"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Im 27 how many women should i have been with by this age?

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Sexually. Just out of curiosity whats the average number of partners by 27.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Thats the problem. I have been with a lot of women and now i feel like a seasoned pornstar. Maybe i should slow it down. PS ive had sex with 20 women in the last two years. :nervous:
 

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I think I've read the stats are if you've had over 15 or 16, you are in the top 1/3 of all men. Maybe it will change since women are getting so easy now[and men not getting married at 21]. BUT, why do you care what the number is? I mean if it's enough for you,thats all that counts. A strong Christian man may be as proud of his celibacy as you are of your 100. In fact, he may know more about women than you do[since most guys stop trying to learn about women once they start sleeping with her].

I'm not breaking records because I'm not interested in numbers, I'm interested in quality[in fact, I'd be perfectly willing to "give up" several I did have]
 

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Who cares?

I know 35 year-olds who have been with maybe 3, and guys my age who have been with 30+. If you are a good-looking guy and you have game I would say 15 +/- 5 is "average".
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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Stormbringer said:
Quality > quantity

Totally agree -- are you actually proud of those 4's and 5's you slept with when you were so drunk you couldn't see? I'm not, in fact I would probably deny ever sleeping with any of them if I saw them again.
 

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By 27, I believe my number was nearing 100. That's when I lost count. You have to also keep in mind that I started having sex in 1972 when I was 18, and things were quite different then. 100 sounds like a lot, but it's only about ten girls a year.
 

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If you're happy with that aspect of your life then it's the right number, whether it be 1 or 1000. Don't let other people tell you what you should be doing in something this personal.
 

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Stormbringer said:
Quality > quantity

Totally agree. I'd rather bang 1 Hb10 20 times than 20 5's one time. Now if I could only get 20 Hb10's..:cry:
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Opinions please

Sexually. Just out of curiosity whats the socially acceptable number of partners for a 27 year old...

...female?
... male?
 

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Exactly 3.287964

Because we should all conform to societies’ norms.

You should do exactly what others say.

You should live your life by what others think.

You should try to “fit in” and be like everyone else.
 

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Sexually. Just out of curiosity whats the average number of partners by 27.
why bother ? that's the same question as "should I date a '6' or a '8'?"...or "is a 6 inches penis too small" ?...who cares ?

I youre fine with 10 partner at 27 yo, you don"t have to be ashamed if your 25yo friend bangged 10 girls the last years.

The number of sexual partners doesnt make you a better MAN. It only makes you more confident and better in bed (I guess).
You could have fvcked 150 girl and be as dumb as Lloyd Christmas. :whistle:

That"s quite difficult to remember all the name of some girls I knew...

cheers
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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about 12
 

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I am at 9 (or 10) at age 25 and I can't be really proud of the quality. But f*ck it, Ima do some quality girls in brighter future that is waiting for me ;)
 

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It's not about how many women you've ƒucked up to now. It's about how many women want to ƒuck you now. Quality comes from quantity.
 

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100+ is crazy. I don't even think I'd want to sleep with that many women. It seems to me it would be statistically impossible not to contract an STD with those numbers, even with a condom.

I've been with around 22-24 girls, and honestly if I were to get married I wouldn't feel like I've "missed out" on pvssy. The only thing I'd wish is that I spent more time banging hotter girls, lol, like most of us probably do. :D But when you're young you tend to be an opportunist.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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