I'm 23 and she's 17

[Samim]

But my fear is that one day, she will want to meet other guys, and I don't know if my heart can take it... I kind of brought this up

Don't do this again. You're a man, not some insecure chump.

 

[AndoraStar]

My only problem w/ all of this is, the fact that you're already in your 20's and have done things she hasn't. She may regret things later.

If you love her as you say you do, give her the space and freedom to still be a teenager.

Remember age is just a number.. all the best

 

[CyranoDeBergerac]

Originally posted by Da-OnlyX
......Is she legal?

She is in the state of Nevada! Trip to Vegas anyone???

Other than that I have good news and bad.

yes, you are an idiot.

On the other hand you're more in the vein of profound insecurity and one-itis than outright b@$$tard.

-Cyrano

 

[marketboy]

bump

 

[marketboy]

bump for 1 last time

 

[djcaseanova]

here in texas anything under 18 is illegal and considered statutory rape for anyone who is under the age of 18. Even if both parties are under that age. No one enforces it though around here unless it's a true case of 'rape'. Texas has strange sex laws, ie. ILLEGAL to have anal sex, but it's done anyway.

BUT moreover back to the topic at hand... My girlfriend is 18, almost 19 and I am 23. Her parents love me... and I know she loves me. Are you an fool... depends... you are if you don't know the meaning between love and lust. If you lust over her, then yes, if you love her, then no. Love has now age limits nor boundaries... lust is dangerous, pray you don't knock her up =)

 

[marketboy]

djcassenova:

How long have you and your girlfriend been together?

I guess time will tell....

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

I would talk to a 17 year old in a nanosecond - get her birth date and call her on her birthday to welcome her to 'adulthood'.

 

[E-Z Rider]

Good lord, please nobody else post anything about some random-assed state's age of consent laws. They're legal.

6 yrs, in itself, isn't a big deal.

In fact, the ages aren't the biggest deal at all. Her youthfulness presents a slightly different aspect of womankind, but for the most part just treat her like you would any woman, regardless of age. The guidelines of this site don't need to be altered much at all for this.

Where you have me scared is with the 'I'm in love with her' part. Now, there's nothing wrong with being in love, or even getting hurt by a woman. All the macho keyboard jockeys are just fooling themselves if they think they can go through life without vesting enough emotion in a girl to get hurt- and still live a fulfilling life.

What I'm talking about is the effect young girls can have. They can seem so good, so un-tainted, so energetic. And they can seem like they love you a hell of a lot- but really they don't know what it is they're dealing with. They are usually nieve and are easily swayed by men...meaning you might probably have issues with one of her 'guy friends' sooner or later. And then there's the whole maturing process she has yet to go through.

My point being, it's hard to really love someone who hasn't even defined themself yet. It's not impossible for you to be in love (and if you really are, I hope it works out), but it's unlikely. Without a doubt, you're attracted to her, but love is a very strong word to toss around.

Anyways, I say go for it. Go balls out, don't ever turn down an opportunity with a good women without a good reason. And a low probability of relationship success does not constitute a 'good reason'; the success of ANY relationship has a low success rate- it's a given. And on that note, of all those problems I and others have listed abt 17 yr old girls, if you really look the same problems (or slight variations thereof) plague older women as well. It's a mixed bag- IMO your odds aren't either hurt or helped by her being 17.

So go for it. Balls out. Don't be afraid to get hurt- if you don't get hurt by her it'll be someone else. And as always, I recommend to fulfill your life in other ways as much as possible. It makes everything better, and will ease any hurt that can come of this.

Good luck, and I hoped this helped- E-Z

 

[marketboy]

Thank you so much.

I will take all of your advice into account.

 

[Toronto's Finest]

Thanks 00Kenny!

Thanks 00Kenny,
I've actual mentioned your suggestion about asking a girl how she'd feel if she only ever dated one man (I told them 'date', not 'slept'), and the response has been mixed so far. I have a few inexperienced female friends I keep in touch with, and half say they would wonder what it would be like to be with another man if they married their first love, but aren't sure how they'd react since they've never been in a longterm relationship ....and then I know some who said they wouldn't worry about it as long as they're happy with their partner.