They need a study to tell us 194 lbs isn't sexy but 124 lbs is? And sleepy pilots cause more plane crashes.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Illustration of increase in SMV due to weight loss
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
BeExcellent
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True true. My ex husband has lost 40 lbs., lifts daily and can wear his good Italian suits again. He told me the other day how wonderful it is to feel sexy again. Its wonderful to see him feeling that way again. Better body, more confidence, increased SMV for sure. Big difference. His body looks better now than it did 20 years ago.
mrgoodstuff
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Did you tell him he looks better than 20 yrs ago?
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It's tough for me being I work 2 full time jobs in as a cook. I get so wiped out all I can do is sleep after I get off. But if I could take off a year just to get my health and body in order, I would. Until I get a better job. Hell yeah I wish I had more money and muscles to throw around. If you're eye candy, your lame jokes and screw ups will be forgiven a lot. Little can be done wrong. If you're not eye candy, little can be done right.
I don't talk with any of the servers I work with. I'm just there to get my money.
I don't talk with any of the servers I work with. I'm just there to get my money.
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Yes of course. We attended a fundraiser together recently & he looked fantastic. He was going on about how he is proud of the weightlifting and the discipline & result he is seeing etc. He has said it himself too. He knows his physique looks the best it ever has. His swagger is coming back. It's great to see.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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I admire your work ethic but that kind of schedule is plain unhealthy. Can nothing be done to reduce your hours?
Quality of life matters man
mrgoodstuff
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If you don't have a lot of time due to working a lot or whatever, the "eat-stop-eat" one day fast approach can work wonders. "eat-stop-eat" is an approach where you have one or two fast days per week. On those fast days you will shed 1/2-3/4 lbs of fat per day, and lose less muscle than you think. It's perfect for someone who doesn't have a lot of time, or gained too much fat and wants to speed up fat loss.
