Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Should I send her a text and say i'm sorrythen ?banGbro said:
I meet her in a coffee shopbanGbro said:
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
She works/ lives at a posh hotel that only tells her a few hours before if she is working or not sometimes!kdnash82 said:
don't confuse this for flaming. It's just constructive critcisam on your last sentance.johncrawford said:Just got off MSN with a girl and asked her do you still want to have a drink then! she said I'll let you know!
I just said if not have a nice life then!
(and continue the conversation if it was any good, after all you can't have too many friends, or pivots)Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Moved on to another girl nowspider_007 said:don't confuse this for flaming. It's just constructive critcisam on your last sentance.
what did you accomplish with it....it just sounds like a despret attempt to make your self feel better. Or like your a hurt little poppy. You can't show that it bothers you.
If it was me i'd be like;
aha, alright then