"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I'll be 25 in less than a month.

gonnamakeachange

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Please tell me I can turn my dating/sex life around and make up for the years I missed! I want to bang some young women, older women, and women my age before I settle down with a quality girl. Can this still be done? Does it matter I only have a little experience?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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I've always had g/f's and gotten laid, but I didn't fully break out of my beta ways until I found this site when I was hitting 30.

You are a man, not a woman. The clock is on your side. TRUST ME, you have plenty of time.
 

romangod

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gonnamakeachange said:
Please tell me I can turn my dating/sex life around and make up for the years I missed! I want to bang some young women, older women, and women my age before I settle down with a quality girl. Can this still be done? Does it matter I only have a little experience?

No, it can't be done. Actually, it's impossible. :nono:


Cheers!
 

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You are still not yet qualified to post in this section:trouble:
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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piranha45

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amoka said:
You are still not yet qualified to post in this section:trouble:
strangely that seems to have no effect on the women here.
 

ChalengeGuyFan

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You need to detach yourself from the past; you surely can't change it, so why dwell it?
Are you complacent feeling the regrets?

What you can do is take the action necessary to prevent future regrets and, more importantly, to actually be happy.

Ignoring the past can be a hard thing to be done, but it will be accomplished once you're progressing to the better future, therefore living a happier present.
By progressing to a better future I an not referring at all of a sudden fvcking girls left and right, but by experiencing all magnitudes of success (girl related or not) and feeling a shift of mentality.

So, yes, go ahead and be great!
 

Kal0051

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don't worry dude. Most girls are looking to settle down with an older guy anyway so you got lots of time (at least a few years). And there are always older women that want that young stud to make their eyes roll back. So get out there and get that pvssy, it's yours for the taking.
 

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You can do it if you set proper goals :D
you probly can do it for another 10 years unless you want to get married
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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Can be done. Just how 'inexperienced' are you?
 

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romangod said:
No, it can't be done. Actually, it's impossible. :nono:


Cheers!
I'm not sure he is the right state of mind to appreciate this kind of high brow humor.

Anyway, OP, when I was your age I was thinking about all the years I missed. I kept thinking like that and missed another three. So, fvck the thinking, nothing good ever comes out. And as str8up said, there is time for you.
 

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you can definitely turn it around man! try to find the Double Your Dating DVD with the lil dude in the wheelchair, i dont remember which one it was......thats what flicked the lightswitch in my head, along with a huge text file saved on my computer of 'notes'...seems lame but i read them a few times a week, drilled it in my head and it just made sense of me, it was really like a lightswitch.....you'll get it just dont give up

it's all in your head.....you can be the guy that sucks at dating, or you can be the guy that goes out and has a good time and people are gravitated towards
 

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I hope so guys. I hope to date quite a few women (and sleep with quite a few) before I ever settle down with one girl (if that happens). It just seems like people from age 21-25 dated lots of people and had lots of sex, and I only had just a little.
 

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Dude, I am exactly at the same place as you. I've only been with 1 girl and I'm turning 26 in less than a month. I too feel the need to catch up. It's doable. Change your lifestyle and make it a habit to go after every female opportunity you can. I'm realizing it's a numbers game more than anything.
Don't worry, we're still relatively young at our age. Go for it, no one and nothing can stop you except yourself!
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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gonnamakeachange

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decentguy said:
Don't worry, we're still relatively young at our age. Go for it, no one and nothing can stop you except yourself!
Nooooo..... next thing I know I'll be the "old" guy.

I need to act now! I want to have some crazy sex with a wild young girl. So I can have satisfaction in my later years 'I done that".
 
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