Well i have been talking to this girl in my class(college), and yesterday I felt like crap and had a really bad day. Well i usually walk her home but yesterday i did not feel like it so I just left without waiting for her, and i started talking on the phone. Did i mess things up? I messaged her that i had a bad day and i did not want to take it out on anyone, and she messaged back that i looked upset and that she was not able to say hi to me.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
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"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
No problem, everything is good.
BTW, girls like emotional stuff and being in a bad mood from time to time is only natural. It let you appear like a human being instead of an always-laughing-always-in-supergood-mood-totally-fake-robot.
biker_gixxer
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If anything, you intrigued her. You got her thinking about you and wondering what happened. Keep this type of thing going... Be mysterious...
I wouldn't have texted her talking about your 'bad day'. Girls don't like it when guys play the 'victim', it's not a very masculine trait.
I would have waited until the next day when you saw her again. I'm sure the first question out of her mouth would have been 'what happened?'...
If anything, you intrigued her. You got her thinking about you and wondering what happened. Keep this type of thing going... Be mysterious...
I wouldn't have texted her talking about your 'bad day'. Girls don't like it when guys play the 'victim', it's not a very masculine trait.
I would have waited until the next day when you saw her again. I'm sure the first question out of her mouth would have been 'what happened?'...
squirrels
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Only if you worry about having messed things up. You dont' need to apologize to her if you had a sh!tty day. Just tell her you'll catch her later/tomorrow when you feel better.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
biker_gixxer
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It's a learning process bro, don't sweat it...
We all have a certain amount of AFC in us. Some of us have gallons of it, enough to fill an oil tanker, lol. Others have a few drops...
steroidsrule
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calm down wies...the guy questioned one of his decisions and wanted to know if it was a good or bad move...we all have times when we question our decisions and we did what this board was designed to do...help out each other
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.