Well i have been talking to this girl in my class(college), and yesterday I felt like crap and had a really bad day. Well i usually walk her home but yesterday i did not feel like it so I just left without waiting for her, and i started talking on the phone. Did i mess things up? I messaged her that i had a bad day and i did not want to take it out on anyone, and she messaged back that i looked upset and that she was not able to say hi to me.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
ignoring "her"
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
No problem, everything is good.
BTW, girls like emotional stuff and being in a bad mood from time to time is only natural. It let you appear like a human being instead of an always-laughing-always-in-supergood-mood-totally-fake-robot.
biker_gixxer
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If anything, you intrigued her. You got her thinking about you and wondering what happened. Keep this type of thing going... Be mysterious...
I wouldn't have texted her talking about your 'bad day'. Girls don't like it when guys play the 'victim', it's not a very masculine trait.
I would have waited until the next day when you saw her again. I'm sure the first question out of her mouth would have been 'what happened?'...
If anything, you intrigued her. You got her thinking about you and wondering what happened. Keep this type of thing going... Be mysterious...
I wouldn't have texted her talking about your 'bad day'. Girls don't like it when guys play the 'victim', it's not a very masculine trait.
I would have waited until the next day when you saw her again. I'm sure the first question out of her mouth would have been 'what happened?'...
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Only if you worry about having messed things up. You dont' need to apologize to her if you had a sh!tty day. Just tell her you'll catch her later/tomorrow when you feel better.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
biker_gixxer
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It's a learning process bro, don't sweat it...
We all have a certain amount of AFC in us. Some of us have gallons of it, enough to fill an oil tanker, lol. Others have a few drops...
steroidsrule
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calm down wies...the guy questioned one of his decisions and wanted to know if it was a good or bad move...we all have times when we question our decisions and we did what this board was designed to do...help out each other
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.