Well i have been talking to this girl in my class(college), and yesterday I felt like crap and had a really bad day. Well i usually walk her home but yesterday i did not feel like it so I just left without waiting for her, and i started talking on the phone. Did i mess things up? I messaged her that i had a bad day and i did not want to take it out on anyone, and she messaged back that i looked upset and that she was not able to say hi to me.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
ignoring "her"
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
No problem, everything is good.
BTW, girls like emotional stuff and being in a bad mood from time to time is only natural. It let you appear like a human being instead of an always-laughing-always-in-supergood-mood-totally-fake-robot.
biker_gixxer
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If anything, you intrigued her. You got her thinking about you and wondering what happened. Keep this type of thing going... Be mysterious...
I wouldn't have texted her talking about your 'bad day'. Girls don't like it when guys play the 'victim', it's not a very masculine trait.
I would have waited until the next day when you saw her again. I'm sure the first question out of her mouth would have been 'what happened?'...
If anything, you intrigued her. You got her thinking about you and wondering what happened. Keep this type of thing going... Be mysterious...
I wouldn't have texted her talking about your 'bad day'. Girls don't like it when guys play the 'victim', it's not a very masculine trait.
I would have waited until the next day when you saw her again. I'm sure the first question out of her mouth would have been 'what happened?'...
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Only if you worry about having messed things up. You dont' need to apologize to her if you had a sh!tty day. Just tell her you'll catch her later/tomorrow when you feel better.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
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It's a learning process bro, don't sweat it...
We all have a certain amount of AFC in us. Some of us have gallons of it, enough to fill an oil tanker, lol. Others have a few drops...
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calm down wies...the guy questioned one of his decisions and wanted to know if it was a good or bad move...we all have times when we question our decisions and we did what this board was designed to do...help out each other
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.