"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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If you want to be just friends with a chick

DJnoob

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and you just want to hang out with her but at the same time you don't want send the signal "i want to bang you or have a relationship with you" Is there like a safe way of doing this???

(i've never really had any female friends due to low self esteem, afcness, etc etc but i want to have em now because i feel better with women now, this is why im asking this question)

Can you DJs give me some opinion, strategy, etc... Thanks
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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Morphiex

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umm its this simple : treat em like your mates....

dont have to treat girls any different then guys , they arent any special creatures that u have to learn a secret language or a secret handshake to befriend or anything like that ,just be friendly , ask how everythings going and stuff like what u do with guys.... only difference is that they arent as strong as guys so punching em hard in tha arm or stuff like that is a basic no no ....
 

DJnoob

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hey mighty,

I mean, yeah, i want to bang chicks but i need some chick friends too so I can expand my social network. U know my situation man
 

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A girl is qualified to be your friend after you had the *****, or if you'll never have the ***** no matter how many beers you drank.

In any case... just keep flirting with them. Flirting doesn't make kids. There's nothing wrong with it. They won't think you should be in a mental hospital.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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You know what is funny. I got emails and phone numbers for chicks I wanted to use as pivots. They don't seem to like when you email them and say you are just looking for a friend. I guess it's a subtle rejection.
 

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DJnoob - yeah i do know the situation. But still better try to bang than getting friends with. Maybe try to date some slutty girls. They will have sex and wont get involved into realtion = make friends with You.
I never really had this problem, im friends with loads of girls, with most of them i speak about sex etc, so if id like to have it, i think they would give me. Im ready to cheat in my LTR any moment.
 
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