She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.
You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.
The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
the usual coplaining about things she normaly wouldn't. less x's and o's and smiley faces on IM. less invittaions to come over. etc. etc. she'll then say that I'm being a sensi pants when i ask about these things but i'm learning you can't talk logically with girls about this tuff.ready123 said:what do you think are some signs? make an educated guess based on your past experience
Seriously...the only way to really make her regain interest level is to pull back and not see her as much...how many times a week do you see her now?sosilky said:the usual coplaining about things she normaly wouldn't. less x's and o's and smiley faces on IM. less invittaions to come over. etc. etc. she'll then say that I'm being a sensi pants when i ask about these things but i'm learning you can't talk logically with girls about this tuff.
so what are things that can be done to raise the interest again? what signs have you seen in your experiences?
gray_fox_9 said:Seriously...the only way to really make her regain interest level is to pull back and not see her as much...how many times a week do you see her now?
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
WesCottII said:If you notice her interest going down, it's probably because you failed to make a move, wether asking her out, or kissing her.
Pull back, give her her chance to miss your fantastic company.
Remember:
The harder you chase, the faster you lose.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.