Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
the usual coplaining about things she normaly wouldn't. less x's and o's and smiley faces on IM. less invittaions to come over. etc. etc. she'll then say that I'm being a sensi pants when i ask about these things but i'm learning you can't talk logically with girls about this tuff.ready123 said:what do you think are some signs? make an educated guess based on your past experience
Seriously...the only way to really make her regain interest level is to pull back and not see her as much...how many times a week do you see her now?sosilky said:the usual coplaining about things she normaly wouldn't. less x's and o's and smiley faces on IM. less invittaions to come over. etc. etc. she'll then say that I'm being a sensi pants when i ask about these things but i'm learning you can't talk logically with girls about this tuff.
so what are things that can be done to raise the interest again? what signs have you seen in your experiences?
gray_fox_9 said:Seriously...the only way to really make her regain interest level is to pull back and not see her as much...how many times a week do you see her now?
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
WesCottII said:If you notice her interest going down, it's probably because you failed to make a move, wether asking her out, or kissing her.
Pull back, give her her chance to miss your fantastic company.
Remember:
The harder you chase, the faster you lose.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.