"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
If you start to notice her interest level go down
- Thread starter sosilky
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"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
ready123
Master Don Juan
the usual coplaining about things she normaly wouldn't. less x's and o's and smiley faces on IM. less invittaions to come over. etc. etc. she'll then say that I'm being a sensi pants when i ask about these things but i'm learning you can't talk logically with girls about this tuff.ready123 said:what do you think are some signs? make an educated guess based on your past experience
so what are things that can be done to raise the interest again? what signs have you seen in your experiences?
gray_fox_9
Don Juan
Seriously...the only way to really make her regain interest level is to pull back and not see her as much...how many times a week do you see her now?sosilky said:the usual coplaining about things she normaly wouldn't. less x's and o's and smiley faces on IM. less invittaions to come over. etc. etc. she'll then say that I'm being a sensi pants when i ask about these things but i'm learning you can't talk logically with girls about this tuff.
so what are things that can be done to raise the interest again? what signs have you seen in your experiences?
gray_fox_9 said:Seriously...the only way to really make her regain interest level is to pull back and not see her as much...how many times a week do you see her now?
yeah thats what i thought we were seeing eachother allot so i pulled back. but then we had a falling out which is a whole nother story. anythinmg esle besides puling back?
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
WesCottII
Master Don Juan
Pull back, give her her chance to miss your fantastic company.
Remember:
The harder you chase, the faster you lose.
WesCottII said:If you notice her interest going down, it's probably because you failed to make a move, wether asking her out, or kissing her.
Pull back, give her her chance to miss your fantastic company.
Remember:
The harder you chase, the faster you lose.
LoL we were a bit further along then that but thanks
WesCottII
Master Don Juan
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.