"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
If you had to choose one tip of your own
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
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kingsam
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
dude i aint always on this forum, i just like to get info for future reference. Also, i do go out, always flirt when im out, at work....so im getting out a lot, im just asking for some info..whats wrong with that? absolutely nothing.S.U.R.F. said:
zekko
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RSD is definitely not all routine, but you're right the people there ride the mods di*cks all day. I would suggest giving it another chance, they have some good stuff.
Dude, that's his tip. To get off this forum. And a darn good one it is.
Alright ill give it another shot. Ive read some of your posts around here and you seem like a very stand up guy.zekko said:
lol..Yea I know thats his tip, ive heard it before. I love this forum though, also coming up with some new gaming ideas I can use. Plus this place is also more like a close nit family. But yea he def is right though.
kingsam
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there are principles and a few basic tactics - but RSD grows you as a person (inner game)
you obv. havent seen MM/others they ARE ALL routines - you create a shell of magic tricks that mask a weak person inside...
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
zekko
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I almost can't believe Mystery Method actually worked, but apparently it did.
It's all fake, and seemingly so transparent.
Unless you're just wanting to trick some girl into sleeping with you, I don't see what the appeal is. I guess that IS what it's for though, and I have definitely had friends who have successfully used lies to get women. It's just not my style, I guess.
kingsam
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people gotta reemmber that mystery is a magician too so he already had a kinda vibe before all the PUA stuff started...zekko said:
its worht lokoing over MM for background understanding but i got the impression that MM would work on "cheap/dumb club girls"
and what happens when you run out of canned lines/routines/tricks...uh oh!
i was the the RSD hotseat even the other day... the amazing thing was that it wa made really easy - the guys were just themselves . but "themselves" was VERY strong maculine + cool
the examples we were shown had guys picking up girls in 5-15 minutes...sweet...and often kissing within 30 seconds ...being phsical immediately....really inspiring stuff
kingsam
Master Don Juan
yes , thats why i said ....the natural direction for a "DJ", ... if you use this site as a good foundation/grounding for personal growth see what you can do wiht that - then when progress is slowing take your game to a even higher level with them (rsd)crissco2 said:
(you would likely gain more going to them after some previous self improvement (eg from this site) than by starting off at rsd straight from AFCdom)
their inner game stuff goes VERY deep, a hell of a lot deeper than here, but its kinda "advanced" (hard to explain so i wont)
Exhumed
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And by the way kingsam, what do you consider the best RSD product? What should I watch/listen to next?
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
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-Work on yourself, before you work on a women.
Too much thinking and re-thinking clouds the mind and reduces spontaneity...
No mind, no problem - too much mind, too many problems - that's the Zen of DJing in a nutshell...