She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
I would convert it to Euros or put it in GOLD! The dollar is being "set-up" for a fall!!BluEyes said:What would you do with it?
How would you spend it? Would you save it? Blow it in the brothels? Play Humanitarian until it ran out? Invest it? Burn it in a monk-like ceremony?
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Not necessarily. Buying at the peak of the greatest housing bubble in history probably isn't the best idea.backbreaker said:Buy some type of real estate. if you have a million dollars and you are renting **** you are a dumb ****.
Not necessarily. Buying at the peak of the greatest housing bubble in history probably isn't the best idea. I'd at least wait for all this subprime mess to shake out the froth in the market before I'd seriously consider buying any real estate(in CA anyway).backbreaker said:Buy some type of real estate. if you have a million dollars and you are renting **** you are a dumb ****.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
100k in rent over 3 years? LOL, you must renting your own private island or something! My share of the rent is $875 a month. So I'll have paid a bit over $30k after 3 years at that rate. If I had to go out and buy a house around here, even just a so so house, I'd be looking at $3000 a month mortage, plus about $600 in property taxes(though I'd get some of it back at tax time), several hundred in insurance, dropping a few hundred for maintenance. Plus fact in if that house falls by just $30,000 over the same period of time, I will have been better off renting. I think the average house is staged to fall by WAAAAY more than that much. I think we're looking at a housing collapse as credit markets crumble and foreclosures continue skyrocketing.backbreaker said:You are getting too technical.
Buying is better than renting. in 3 years of rent you have paid what...100k in rent wiht nothing to show for it.
Most the first 3 years is going to interest anyway if you look at the amortization table. Not much of the house will actually be "owned" at that point by the buyer. That's assuming the house will even held value.If you BUY you have invested 100k into owning your house.
Yeah I know. Many people have been calling bubble for a long time while the market kept going up. But then people were calling dotcom bubble years before it bombed and they were considered fools. But they were looking at the fundamentals of the market and that the P/E ratios didn't make sense. Robert Schiller was one of the loudest bears of the dotcom bubble and he was right, and he's been saying the same about housing for some time now.The "bubble' has been going to "burst" for years..
I hear ya. There's a psychological value in a home that can't be measured with economic charts and it might be worth it to some people, bubble or not.and while I don't keep my money here, I don't live in the fear that there "might" be something going to happen. I'm not saying I disagree, I'm just saying you still have to do normal everyday ****.
And I guarantee you that by the time you're ready to buy in a few years it will be cheaper than it is now.the only reason I haven't bought a house in CA is because the one I am living in, which if I really wanted to I could buy tomorrow.. I don't really want. it's nice, it's very nice.. but everyday I drive home I pass the house I WANT.
x3My share of the rent is $875 a month.
which is STILL better 9 out of 10 times than renting. I know what youa re trying to say.. IN Sarasota it was definatly a renter's market.. I was renting a 2100 SQ condo a block away from the ocean for 1100 bucks a month. That's crack prices.Most the first 3 years is going to interest anyway if you look at the amortization table. Not much of the house will actually be "owned" at that point by the buyer. That's assuming the house will even held value.
It might be. And Real Estate isn't my strong point. Horses are. My mom owns alot of real estate, a couple of apartments and some rent houses and I have an uncle on my ohter side of the family who runs a million dollar real estate financing company.. if I need advice I call them (with prefence going to my uncle).And I guarantee you that buy the time you're ready to buy in a few years it will be cheaper than it is now.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
+1 :yes:backbreaker said:...Buy some type of real estate. ...
Besides, real estate can be purchased below its market value because people are afraid to invest.backbreaker said:...The "bubble' has been going to "burst" for years.. and while I don't keep my money here, I don't live in the fear that there "might" be something going to happen.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.