Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
I would convert it to Euros or put it in GOLD! The dollar is being "set-up" for a fall!!BluEyes said:What would you do with it?
How would you spend it? Would you save it? Blow it in the brothels? Play Humanitarian until it ran out? Invest it? Burn it in a monk-like ceremony?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Not necessarily. Buying at the peak of the greatest housing bubble in history probably isn't the best idea.backbreaker said:Buy some type of real estate. if you have a million dollars and you are renting **** you are a dumb ****.
Not necessarily. Buying at the peak of the greatest housing bubble in history probably isn't the best idea. I'd at least wait for all this subprime mess to shake out the froth in the market before I'd seriously consider buying any real estate(in CA anyway).backbreaker said:Buy some type of real estate. if you have a million dollars and you are renting **** you are a dumb ****.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
100k in rent over 3 years? LOL, you must renting your own private island or something! My share of the rent is $875 a month. So I'll have paid a bit over $30k after 3 years at that rate. If I had to go out and buy a house around here, even just a so so house, I'd be looking at $3000 a month mortage, plus about $600 in property taxes(though I'd get some of it back at tax time), several hundred in insurance, dropping a few hundred for maintenance. Plus fact in if that house falls by just $30,000 over the same period of time, I will have been better off renting. I think the average house is staged to fall by WAAAAY more than that much. I think we're looking at a housing collapse as credit markets crumble and foreclosures continue skyrocketing.backbreaker said:You are getting too technical.
Buying is better than renting. in 3 years of rent you have paid what...100k in rent wiht nothing to show for it.
Most the first 3 years is going to interest anyway if you look at the amortization table. Not much of the house will actually be "owned" at that point by the buyer. That's assuming the house will even held value.If you BUY you have invested 100k into owning your house.
Yeah I know. Many people have been calling bubble for a long time while the market kept going up. But then people were calling dotcom bubble years before it bombed and they were considered fools. But they were looking at the fundamentals of the market and that the P/E ratios didn't make sense. Robert Schiller was one of the loudest bears of the dotcom bubble and he was right, and he's been saying the same about housing for some time now.The "bubble' has been going to "burst" for years..
I hear ya. There's a psychological value in a home that can't be measured with economic charts and it might be worth it to some people, bubble or not.and while I don't keep my money here, I don't live in the fear that there "might" be something going to happen. I'm not saying I disagree, I'm just saying you still have to do normal everyday ****.
And I guarantee you that by the time you're ready to buy in a few years it will be cheaper than it is now.the only reason I haven't bought a house in CA is because the one I am living in, which if I really wanted to I could buy tomorrow.. I don't really want. it's nice, it's very nice.. but everyday I drive home I pass the house I WANT.
x3My share of the rent is $875 a month.
which is STILL better 9 out of 10 times than renting. I know what youa re trying to say.. IN Sarasota it was definatly a renter's market.. I was renting a 2100 SQ condo a block away from the ocean for 1100 bucks a month. That's crack prices.Most the first 3 years is going to interest anyway if you look at the amortization table. Not much of the house will actually be "owned" at that point by the buyer. That's assuming the house will even held value.
It might be. And Real Estate isn't my strong point. Horses are. My mom owns alot of real estate, a couple of apartments and some rent houses and I have an uncle on my ohter side of the family who runs a million dollar real estate financing company.. if I need advice I call them (with prefence going to my uncle).And I guarantee you that buy the time you're ready to buy in a few years it will be cheaper than it is now.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
+1 :yes:backbreaker said:...Buy some type of real estate. ...
Besides, real estate can be purchased below its market value because people are afraid to invest.backbreaker said:...The "bubble' has been going to "burst" for years.. and while I don't keep my money here, I don't live in the fear that there "might" be something going to happen.
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.