Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
I would convert it to Euros or put it in GOLD! The dollar is being "set-up" for a fall!!BluEyes said:What would you do with it?
How would you spend it? Would you save it? Blow it in the brothels? Play Humanitarian until it ran out? Invest it? Burn it in a monk-like ceremony?
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Not necessarily. Buying at the peak of the greatest housing bubble in history probably isn't the best idea.backbreaker said:Buy some type of real estate. if you have a million dollars and you are renting **** you are a dumb ****.
Not necessarily. Buying at the peak of the greatest housing bubble in history probably isn't the best idea. I'd at least wait for all this subprime mess to shake out the froth in the market before I'd seriously consider buying any real estate(in CA anyway).backbreaker said:Buy some type of real estate. if you have a million dollars and you are renting **** you are a dumb ****.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
100k in rent over 3 years? LOL, you must renting your own private island or something! My share of the rent is $875 a month. So I'll have paid a bit over $30k after 3 years at that rate. If I had to go out and buy a house around here, even just a so so house, I'd be looking at $3000 a month mortage, plus about $600 in property taxes(though I'd get some of it back at tax time), several hundred in insurance, dropping a few hundred for maintenance. Plus fact in if that house falls by just $30,000 over the same period of time, I will have been better off renting. I think the average house is staged to fall by WAAAAY more than that much. I think we're looking at a housing collapse as credit markets crumble and foreclosures continue skyrocketing.backbreaker said:You are getting too technical.
Buying is better than renting. in 3 years of rent you have paid what...100k in rent wiht nothing to show for it.
Most the first 3 years is going to interest anyway if you look at the amortization table. Not much of the house will actually be "owned" at that point by the buyer. That's assuming the house will even held value.If you BUY you have invested 100k into owning your house.
Yeah I know. Many people have been calling bubble for a long time while the market kept going up. But then people were calling dotcom bubble years before it bombed and they were considered fools. But they were looking at the fundamentals of the market and that the P/E ratios didn't make sense. Robert Schiller was one of the loudest bears of the dotcom bubble and he was right, and he's been saying the same about housing for some time now.The "bubble' has been going to "burst" for years..
I hear ya. There's a psychological value in a home that can't be measured with economic charts and it might be worth it to some people, bubble or not.and while I don't keep my money here, I don't live in the fear that there "might" be something going to happen. I'm not saying I disagree, I'm just saying you still have to do normal everyday ****.
And I guarantee you that by the time you're ready to buy in a few years it will be cheaper than it is now.the only reason I haven't bought a house in CA is because the one I am living in, which if I really wanted to I could buy tomorrow.. I don't really want. it's nice, it's very nice.. but everyday I drive home I pass the house I WANT.
x3My share of the rent is $875 a month.
which is STILL better 9 out of 10 times than renting. I know what youa re trying to say.. IN Sarasota it was definatly a renter's market.. I was renting a 2100 SQ condo a block away from the ocean for 1100 bucks a month. That's crack prices.Most the first 3 years is going to interest anyway if you look at the amortization table. Not much of the house will actually be "owned" at that point by the buyer. That's assuming the house will even held value.
It might be. And Real Estate isn't my strong point. Horses are. My mom owns alot of real estate, a couple of apartments and some rent houses and I have an uncle on my ohter side of the family who runs a million dollar real estate financing company.. if I need advice I call them (with prefence going to my uncle).And I guarantee you that buy the time you're ready to buy in a few years it will be cheaper than it is now.
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
+1 :yes:backbreaker said:...Buy some type of real estate. ...
Besides, real estate can be purchased below its market value because people are afraid to invest.backbreaker said:...The "bubble' has been going to "burst" for years.. and while I don't keep my money here, I don't live in the fear that there "might" be something going to happen.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.