I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
ahh cool thanks man. She was just some girl who i started working with. Thanks!f283000 said:loohozer check the last link in my sig (deals with this type of situation).
Basically to keep it simple and not to complicate your life and become confused don't agree to "hang out" with a romantic interest + her friends UNTIL your status with her is somewhat defined.
If shes your gf then it's fine, if you kissed her then it's fine, if you banged her then it's fine. If you are barely working your game on her and haven't even kissed her yet I would stay away. Make it a point with this girl and with all future girls that if they want to use a part of your time it just needs to be the two of you together. Send the message that you are nobody's little toy and that you're a possible romantic partner not a hangout buddy.
Don't go out with chicks you work with unless you are sure it is going to be a LTR! chances are, you should not go out with them at all!loohozer said:ahh cool thanks man. She was just some girl who i started working with. Thanks!