"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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if you become beta , is it all over ?

mackdaddy27

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Basically i was really alpha the first two weeks i knew. Then this past week i became beta starting giving her rides telling her i am free all the day for her and calling her back when she used to always call me. I realized shes pretty smart and and combined with the fact i used to not give on on damn about relationship whereas now i do.
So my question , is if you go from being alpha to beta , is it all over has she lost her attraction for me permanently or can i recover my becoming alpha and watching my frame ? Can incongruency be fixed or is it permanent?
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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DoctorLW

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mackdaddy27 said:
Basically i was really alpha the first two weeks i knew. Then this past week i became beta starting giving her rides telling her i am free all the day for her and calling her back when she used to always call me. I realized shes pretty smart and and combined with the fact i used to not give on on damn about relationship whereas now i do.
So my question , is if you go from being alpha to beta , is it all over has she lost her attraction for me permanently or can i recover my becoming alpha and watching my frame ? Can incongruency be fixed or is it permanent?
You haven't really provided enough information to answer this question, but it taks longer than a week to lose attraction. You realized you are losing control which is the first step, now just make moves to keep yourself under control.

One thing that helps when your brain starts losing control like this is to just convince yourself it's already over. If you can do that, it will suck for a couple days but you'll regain your senses and won't have to worry about emotion taking over.
 

Master Bates

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um, you don't switch between "alpha" and "beta" from week to week, whatever the hell that means.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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Well if you feel yourself slipping back into AFCness. I suggest you start thinking about what you should be doing and what a Don Juan would be doing. Go search some posts on here and get back to your roots.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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