"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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if you become beta , is it all over ?

mackdaddy27

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Basically i was really alpha the first two weeks i knew. Then this past week i became beta starting giving her rides telling her i am free all the day for her and calling her back when she used to always call me. I realized shes pretty smart and and combined with the fact i used to not give on on damn about relationship whereas now i do.
So my question , is if you go from being alpha to beta , is it all over has she lost her attraction for me permanently or can i recover my becoming alpha and watching my frame ? Can incongruency be fixed or is it permanent?
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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DoctorLW

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mackdaddy27 said:
Basically i was really alpha the first two weeks i knew. Then this past week i became beta starting giving her rides telling her i am free all the day for her and calling her back when she used to always call me. I realized shes pretty smart and and combined with the fact i used to not give on on damn about relationship whereas now i do.
So my question , is if you go from being alpha to beta , is it all over has she lost her attraction for me permanently or can i recover my becoming alpha and watching my frame ? Can incongruency be fixed or is it permanent?
You haven't really provided enough information to answer this question, but it taks longer than a week to lose attraction. You realized you are losing control which is the first step, now just make moves to keep yourself under control.

One thing that helps when your brain starts losing control like this is to just convince yourself it's already over. If you can do that, it will suck for a couple days but you'll regain your senses and won't have to worry about emotion taking over.
 

Master Bates

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um, you don't switch between "alpha" and "beta" from week to week, whatever the hell that means.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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Well if you feel yourself slipping back into AFCness. I suggest you start thinking about what you should be doing and what a Don Juan would be doing. Go search some posts on here and get back to your roots.
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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