"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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if you become beta , is it all over ?

mackdaddy27

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Basically i was really alpha the first two weeks i knew. Then this past week i became beta starting giving her rides telling her i am free all the day for her and calling her back when she used to always call me. I realized shes pretty smart and and combined with the fact i used to not give on on damn about relationship whereas now i do.
So my question , is if you go from being alpha to beta , is it all over has she lost her attraction for me permanently or can i recover my becoming alpha and watching my frame ? Can incongruency be fixed or is it permanent?
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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DoctorLW

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mackdaddy27 said:
Basically i was really alpha the first two weeks i knew. Then this past week i became beta starting giving her rides telling her i am free all the day for her and calling her back when she used to always call me. I realized shes pretty smart and and combined with the fact i used to not give on on damn about relationship whereas now i do.
So my question , is if you go from being alpha to beta , is it all over has she lost her attraction for me permanently or can i recover my becoming alpha and watching my frame ? Can incongruency be fixed or is it permanent?
You haven't really provided enough information to answer this question, but it taks longer than a week to lose attraction. You realized you are losing control which is the first step, now just make moves to keep yourself under control.

One thing that helps when your brain starts losing control like this is to just convince yourself it's already over. If you can do that, it will suck for a couple days but you'll regain your senses and won't have to worry about emotion taking over.
 

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um, you don't switch between "alpha" and "beta" from week to week, whatever the hell that means.
 

I.A.F.Y.B.

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Well if you feel yourself slipping back into AFCness. I suggest you start thinking about what you should be doing and what a Don Juan would be doing. Go search some posts on here and get back to your roots.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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