"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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If she playing with me?

Jetleg

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I met this girl which is a fellow student, so we see each other alot.
We had sex couple of times, and had a good time together, but we are not in a relationship (we never talked about it). until couple weeks ago she used to text me and basically "chase" me everywhere, smiling at me randomly and such.

i noticed that she stopped doing that, and started talking to another student pretty often, i thought they were just friends but couple of a days ago i noticed she really flirts with him (teasing him, touching him...) even when i'm around. In fact when he is around she basically ignores me totally, she doesnt even look at me.

Tomorrow i meet with her, and we probably gonna end up having sex, the thing is, i dont want her to be with another guy, atleast not untill we clear up what are we, but i dont want to bring it up because she is not my girlfriend, what should i do?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Stop being so concerned. Are you talking to other girls? If not you should. Then this girl would not mean as much as she does to you.
 

Jetleg

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Uncharted said:
Stop being so concerned. Are you talking to other girls? If not you should. Then this girl would not mean as much as she does to you.
I have plently of other girls, im not needy, but i guess because i see her everyday its really disturbes me , its like she is doing it on purpose... i guess im just going to ignore her.
 

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Women control relationships nothing a man can DIRECTLY do to make her want exclusivity other than just being a great guy, focusing on yourself, being the best you can be and happy with yourself.

Just go on dates and try to have fun... it's going to happen then it will happen. Women are like weather, nothing you can do about it but dress appropriately.
 

Jetleg

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Ruler you are so right, i showed her disinterest the whole time and used to flake her alot, i guess maybe because i showed SOME interest it got her turned ouf a bit. thanks for the tip guys!
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Jetleg

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Sorry for the double post, she flaked me just one hour before the date, she already did it last week. i know she works night and we also have ALOT to study. (i know that because we study together).

In both times i told her its no biggie, we'll find another time. at that point im pretty sure something is wrong, doesnt have to be another guy i guess.

should pull back? or maybe just ignore her? i've never been in a situation where i have to see the girl almost everyday, otherwise i wouldnt mind.
 
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