Ok kinda baffled what to do here... what do you do if you receive an email from a girl's LDR bf that basically says I know you spend a lot of time with her, ...subtle hints to backoff, yet glad youre treating her right, then looking forward to eventually meeting you as a friend....and kinda expecting a response back? do i respond to this or just let it hang...
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
If her BF tries to befriend you
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
cactus3178
Senior Don Juan
That happened to me once.
Turns out the dude was just checking me out to see what my intentions were. He found out. But not until after she dumped his ass for being an insecure, possessive prick.
Hmm, wonder how he got your email addy?
Turns out the dude was just checking me out to see what my intentions were. He found out. But not until after she dumped his ass for being an insecure, possessive prick.
Hmm, wonder how he got your email addy?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Translation: " I know you been spending alot of time with my girl as a "friend". I know what your intentions are (you got a d1ck after all). I want to see for myself whether or not your a threat but I suspect you are just an emotional tampon wuss that could never get into my girl's pants".xxjswxx said:if you receive an email from a girl's LDR bf that basically says I know you spend a lot of time with her, ...subtle hints to backoff, yet glad youre treating her right, then looking forward to eventually meeting you as a friend....and kinda expecting a response back? do i respond to this or just let it hang...
I would ignore the e-mail. You have a bizzare relationship with this girl and the dude knows you want her. I suspect you are already like "one of her girlfriends" by now but deep down you wish you were more.
Don't be friends with girls you want to fvck. You fvck them first and then be friends with them.
DjDamage
Yup. Gotta press the iggy button on this guy. Only makes him more infuriated that not only is his girl acting suspicious, but now YOU'RE not playing the superficial buddy/buddy game with him. Enter insecurity. Exit boyfriend.
Basically he's trying to force an "alpha male" role by lining you up as well as letting you know who is the man in charge. If you ignore home or don't say jack crap to him, he will be frustrated and if he's the insecure type it'll work into him. If you wanna play this game a little further, you could mention it to this girl that you got a message from him but you can't tell her what he said.
Make this into an evil game, I know I would.
Make this into an evil game, I know I would.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
Phoenix_of_the_ashes
Master Don Juan
I dont get why you guys are all dissing on this guy.
Of course it all depends on the "tone" of what he wrote you you, but as far as I can tell what he did was senseful and in no way underhanded or cowardly. You should treat this guy with the same respect you would expect for yourself.
Of course it all depends on the "tone" of what he wrote you you, but as far as I can tell what he did was senseful and in no way underhanded or cowardly. You should treat this guy with the same respect you would expect for yourself.
Phoenix_of_the_ashes
Master Don Juan
Thats because you act like a woman, playing games.Make this into an evil game, I know I would.
Keeper
Master Don Juan
Hear hear!Phoenix_of_the_ashes said:Thats because you act like a woman, playing games.
diplomatic_lies
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Send him some porn. He's gonna need it.
You need to give this guy a little respect and drop the "better than him" attitude.
She's HIS girlfriend and he's trying to piece together what's going on. You're moving in on his territory, not the other way around.
If you need to attack the boyfriend in order to gain some ground on this woman, give up now because you're really not much.
I see very little basic decency in this thread. I would expect a better attitude towards these sorts of issues from people who claim to always be improving themselves.
She's HIS girlfriend and he's trying to piece together what's going on. You're moving in on his territory, not the other way around.
If you need to attack the boyfriend in order to gain some ground on this woman, give up now because you're really not much.
I see very little basic decency in this thread. I would expect a better attitude towards these sorts of issues from people who claim to always be improving themselves.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.