Ok kinda baffled what to do here... what do you do if you receive an email from a girl's LDR bf that basically says I know you spend a lot of time with her, ...subtle hints to backoff, yet glad youre treating her right, then looking forward to eventually meeting you as a friend....and kinda expecting a response back? do i respond to this or just let it hang...
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
If her BF tries to befriend you
- Thread starter xxjswxx
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"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
cactus3178
Senior Don Juan
That happened to me once.
Turns out the dude was just checking me out to see what my intentions were. He found out. But not until after she dumped his ass for being an insecure, possessive prick.
Hmm, wonder how he got your email addy?
Turns out the dude was just checking me out to see what my intentions were. He found out. But not until after she dumped his ass for being an insecure, possessive prick.
Hmm, wonder how he got your email addy?
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Translation: " I know you been spending alot of time with my girl as a "friend". I know what your intentions are (you got a d1ck after all). I want to see for myself whether or not your a threat but I suspect you are just an emotional tampon wuss that could never get into my girl's pants".xxjswxx said:if you receive an email from a girl's LDR bf that basically says I know you spend a lot of time with her, ...subtle hints to backoff, yet glad youre treating her right, then looking forward to eventually meeting you as a friend....and kinda expecting a response back? do i respond to this or just let it hang...
I would ignore the e-mail. You have a bizzare relationship with this girl and the dude knows you want her. I suspect you are already like "one of her girlfriends" by now but deep down you wish you were more.
Don't be friends with girls you want to fvck. You fvck them first and then be friends with them.
DjDamage
Yup. Gotta press the iggy button on this guy. Only makes him more infuriated that not only is his girl acting suspicious, but now YOU'RE not playing the superficial buddy/buddy game with him. Enter insecurity. Exit boyfriend.
Basically he's trying to force an "alpha male" role by lining you up as well as letting you know who is the man in charge. If you ignore home or don't say jack crap to him, he will be frustrated and if he's the insecure type it'll work into him. If you wanna play this game a little further, you could mention it to this girl that you got a message from him but you can't tell her what he said.
Make this into an evil game, I know I would.
Make this into an evil game, I know I would.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Phoenix_of_the_ashes
Master Don Juan
I dont get why you guys are all dissing on this guy.
Of course it all depends on the "tone" of what he wrote you you, but as far as I can tell what he did was senseful and in no way underhanded or cowardly. You should treat this guy with the same respect you would expect for yourself.
Of course it all depends on the "tone" of what he wrote you you, but as far as I can tell what he did was senseful and in no way underhanded or cowardly. You should treat this guy with the same respect you would expect for yourself.
Phoenix_of_the_ashes
Master Don Juan
Thats because you act like a woman, playing games.Make this into an evil game, I know I would.
Keeper
Master Don Juan
Hear hear!Phoenix_of_the_ashes said:Thats because you act like a woman, playing games.
diplomatic_lies
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Send him some porn. He's gonna need it.
You need to give this guy a little respect and drop the "better than him" attitude.
She's HIS girlfriend and he's trying to piece together what's going on. You're moving in on his territory, not the other way around.
If you need to attack the boyfriend in order to gain some ground on this woman, give up now because you're really not much.
I see very little basic decency in this thread. I would expect a better attitude towards these sorts of issues from people who claim to always be improving themselves.
She's HIS girlfriend and he's trying to piece together what's going on. You're moving in on his territory, not the other way around.
If you need to attack the boyfriend in order to gain some ground on this woman, give up now because you're really not much.
I see very little basic decency in this thread. I would expect a better attitude towards these sorts of issues from people who claim to always be improving themselves.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.