Ok kinda baffled what to do here... what do you do if you receive an email from a girl's LDR bf that basically says I know you spend a lot of time with her, ...subtle hints to backoff, yet glad youre treating her right, then looking forward to eventually meeting you as a friend....and kinda expecting a response back? do i respond to this or just let it hang...
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
If her BF tries to befriend you
- Thread starter xxjswxx
- Start date
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
cactus3178
Senior Don Juan
That happened to me once.
Turns out the dude was just checking me out to see what my intentions were. He found out. But not until after she dumped his ass for being an insecure, possessive prick.
Hmm, wonder how he got your email addy?
Turns out the dude was just checking me out to see what my intentions were. He found out. But not until after she dumped his ass for being an insecure, possessive prick.
Hmm, wonder how he got your email addy?
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Translation: " I know you been spending alot of time with my girl as a "friend". I know what your intentions are (you got a d1ck after all). I want to see for myself whether or not your a threat but I suspect you are just an emotional tampon wuss that could never get into my girl's pants".xxjswxx said:if you receive an email from a girl's LDR bf that basically says I know you spend a lot of time with her, ...subtle hints to backoff, yet glad youre treating her right, then looking forward to eventually meeting you as a friend....and kinda expecting a response back? do i respond to this or just let it hang...
I would ignore the e-mail. You have a bizzare relationship with this girl and the dude knows you want her. I suspect you are already like "one of her girlfriends" by now but deep down you wish you were more.
Don't be friends with girls you want to fvck. You fvck them first and then be friends with them.
DjDamage
Yup. Gotta press the iggy button on this guy. Only makes him more infuriated that not only is his girl acting suspicious, but now YOU'RE not playing the superficial buddy/buddy game with him. Enter insecurity. Exit boyfriend.
Basically he's trying to force an "alpha male" role by lining you up as well as letting you know who is the man in charge. If you ignore home or don't say jack crap to him, he will be frustrated and if he's the insecure type it'll work into him. If you wanna play this game a little further, you could mention it to this girl that you got a message from him but you can't tell her what he said.
Make this into an evil game, I know I would.
Make this into an evil game, I know I would.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Phoenix_of_the_ashes
Master Don Juan
I dont get why you guys are all dissing on this guy.
Of course it all depends on the "tone" of what he wrote you you, but as far as I can tell what he did was senseful and in no way underhanded or cowardly. You should treat this guy with the same respect you would expect for yourself.
Of course it all depends on the "tone" of what he wrote you you, but as far as I can tell what he did was senseful and in no way underhanded or cowardly. You should treat this guy with the same respect you would expect for yourself.
Phoenix_of_the_ashes
Master Don Juan
Thats because you act like a woman, playing games.Make this into an evil game, I know I would.
Keeper
Master Don Juan
Hear hear!Phoenix_of_the_ashes said:Thats because you act like a woman, playing games.
diplomatic_lies
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Send him some porn. He's gonna need it.
You need to give this guy a little respect and drop the "better than him" attitude.
She's HIS girlfriend and he's trying to piece together what's going on. You're moving in on his territory, not the other way around.
If you need to attack the boyfriend in order to gain some ground on this woman, give up now because you're really not much.
I see very little basic decency in this thread. I would expect a better attitude towards these sorts of issues from people who claim to always be improving themselves.
She's HIS girlfriend and he's trying to piece together what's going on. You're moving in on his territory, not the other way around.
If you need to attack the boyfriend in order to gain some ground on this woman, give up now because you're really not much.
I see very little basic decency in this thread. I would expect a better attitude towards these sorts of issues from people who claim to always be improving themselves.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.