Viper
Banned
How come I see so many people doing it? Seriously, alot of girls do it, even guys who get alot of chicks do it sometimes.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
If crossing your arms is closed posture...
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"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
DumpaLumpagus
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Well, this is a very interesting observation of body-language indeed. It appears as if these people are closed, in some way, and do not wish to be open. I believe if these people wished to be open, they would unfold their arms, and maybe even face the fronts of their wrists ******ds (a non-verbal signal of openness).
BackToTheMack
Senior Don Juan
Orrrr they are feeling cold
Keeper
Master Don Juan
Or they find it to be a very comfortable position.
Ever accomplished something big, and felt the need to stand back, cross your arms, and admire your work?
When reading body language you shouldn't base your opinions on their mood on one specific bodily action.
Ever accomplished something big, and felt the need to stand back, cross your arms, and admire your work?
When reading body language you shouldn't base your opinions on their mood on one specific bodily action.
arutha
Senior Don Juan
I feel comfortable with my arms crossed.. Doesn't mean I'm not open to talking, I just feel comfortable because I don't know what else to do with my arms.
I'm making an effort to change that though and do it less..
I'm making an effort to change that though and do it less..
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
brucevangeorge
Banned
Who cares?
Just do your thing.
Just do your thing.
AIR-PILOT
Don Juan
Bottom Line
Crossed arms is bad body language..
Crossed arms is bad body language..
It is usually a very negative sign, especially if it's your first interaction with this person.
However, I've had women fold their arms around me if I'm not paying them enough attention or if they're in a mood with me over something else. It can mean they're sulking in other words.
However, I've had women fold their arms around me if I'm not paying them enough attention or if they're in a mood with me over something else. It can mean they're sulking in other words.
My father used to always cross his arms and I guess that's where I got the idea of it being comfortable.
I tried offsetting this by holding my hands at my waist (you know, the "domination" display where there's almost a 90 degree angle in your arm and your elbows point out) but this probably makes it look like you either have some superiority complex/are impatient so I'm not sure if this is a good idea either.
I wish I had the patience to stand still with my arms down by my sides..but it just gets f*ckin annoying after a while you know? Then I start doing stupid sh!t like putting my hands in my pockets which probably looks even worse.
I have started making an effort to cross my arms less often but it still comes pretty natural.
I tried offsetting this by holding my hands at my waist (you know, the "domination" display where there's almost a 90 degree angle in your arm and your elbows point out) but this probably makes it look like you either have some superiority complex/are impatient so I'm not sure if this is a good idea either.
I wish I had the patience to stand still with my arms down by my sides..but it just gets f*ckin annoying after a while you know? Then I start doing stupid sh!t like putting my hands in my pockets which probably looks even worse.
I have started making an effort to cross my arms less often but it still comes pretty natural.