Viper
Banned
How come I see so many people doing it? Seriously, alot of girls do it, even guys who get alot of chicks do it sometimes.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
If crossing your arms is closed posture...
- Thread starter Viper
- Start date
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
DumpaLumpagus
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Well, this is a very interesting observation of body-language indeed. It appears as if these people are closed, in some way, and do not wish to be open. I believe if these people wished to be open, they would unfold their arms, and maybe even face the fronts of their wrists ******ds (a non-verbal signal of openness).
BackToTheMack
Senior Don Juan
Orrrr they are feeling cold
Keeper
Master Don Juan
Or they find it to be a very comfortable position.
Ever accomplished something big, and felt the need to stand back, cross your arms, and admire your work?
When reading body language you shouldn't base your opinions on their mood on one specific bodily action.
Ever accomplished something big, and felt the need to stand back, cross your arms, and admire your work?
When reading body language you shouldn't base your opinions on their mood on one specific bodily action.
arutha
Senior Don Juan
I feel comfortable with my arms crossed.. Doesn't mean I'm not open to talking, I just feel comfortable because I don't know what else to do with my arms.
I'm making an effort to change that though and do it less..
I'm making an effort to change that though and do it less..
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
brucevangeorge
Banned
Who cares?
Just do your thing.
Just do your thing.
AIR-PILOT
Don Juan
Bottom Line
Crossed arms is bad body language..
Crossed arms is bad body language..
It is usually a very negative sign, especially if it's your first interaction with this person.
However, I've had women fold their arms around me if I'm not paying them enough attention or if they're in a mood with me over something else. It can mean they're sulking in other words.
However, I've had women fold their arms around me if I'm not paying them enough attention or if they're in a mood with me over something else. It can mean they're sulking in other words.
My father used to always cross his arms and I guess that's where I got the idea of it being comfortable.
I tried offsetting this by holding my hands at my waist (you know, the "domination" display where there's almost a 90 degree angle in your arm and your elbows point out) but this probably makes it look like you either have some superiority complex/are impatient so I'm not sure if this is a good idea either.
I wish I had the patience to stand still with my arms down by my sides..but it just gets f*ckin annoying after a while you know? Then I start doing stupid sh!t like putting my hands in my pockets which probably looks even worse.
I have started making an effort to cross my arms less often but it still comes pretty natural.
I tried offsetting this by holding my hands at my waist (you know, the "domination" display where there's almost a 90 degree angle in your arm and your elbows point out) but this probably makes it look like you either have some superiority complex/are impatient so I'm not sure if this is a good idea either.
I wish I had the patience to stand still with my arms down by my sides..but it just gets f*ckin annoying after a while you know? Then I start doing stupid sh!t like putting my hands in my pockets which probably looks even worse.
I have started making an effort to cross my arms less often but it still comes pretty natural.