"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
If a girl is a mortgage officer for a bank
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
her: I work at a bank and I do mortgages. Its kind of slow lately but it's still okay. I used to be an external loan originator and that was tough. You have to kiss butts from builders and realtors so they can refer you their clients.
What do you do for a living?
me: I work as a hand model for a major glove manufacturer. In my spare
time I do my Ph.D. research on the mating habits of the North American
****roach.
her: Well it was nice chatting with you! Have a wonderful night!
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
I'd guess she is left-brained. She thinks in black and white, and is a 'law and order' type of person. Her apartment is probably very clean, and I bet she does not have any artsy type habits like poetry or painting. She also does not value creativity as much as a right-brained person, so your off the wall comment did not hit home.
Also, ****roaches are not funny. Try weasels or chickens next time.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Dude, you can get that for free online once a year from each of the credit bureaus.sexxyback said:
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
6-heads lewis
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try this next time: hey nice shirt, ya I had the same one until my dad got a job!
thats a ****y and funny classic!
You gotta recognize that being ****y and funny has it's time and place, and, more concisely, you need to CALIBRATE.
When she's talking fairly strongly about what she does and how it is, it's usually best to keep with the conversation. Not so that you can get "left-brained" with her, which of course doesn't maximize the attraction mechanisms, but stay with her to a point to at least show her that you can relate to her level of living.
In this case, I don't think it would've hurt to tell her what you did and what you like about it, as well as a brief description of what it's about.
Calibrate, calibrate, calibrate. This alone, when mastered, can take you outside of the need to question why your "C&F" routine didn't work in situations where having done without would've been more effective.
Derek Flint
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To your level.
And girls know it.
Bam-you just blew yourself out.
Real DJ's don't need to bring others down or insult them in order to seduce them.
ExploringOne
Don Juan
As far as law enforcement goes, they have to get a subpoena, and again, there is a record of the actions, if they are unlawful, without cause, again you can sue.
Currently I don't know though, with the patriot acts, it's hard to know what exactly the government can, and can't do without going through a procedure.
Still, I can assure you, if this girl had an ounce of brains, she would not even think about checking your credit history. Now, your account balance, that's another story.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
It didn't work because it wasn't funny.sexxyback said: