"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
If a girl is a mortgage officer for a bank
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"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
her: I work at a bank and I do mortgages. Its kind of slow lately but it's still okay. I used to be an external loan originator and that was tough. You have to kiss butts from builders and realtors so they can refer you their clients.
What do you do for a living?
me: I work as a hand model for a major glove manufacturer. In my spare
time I do my Ph.D. research on the mating habits of the North American
****roach.
her: Well it was nice chatting with you! Have a wonderful night!
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
I'd guess she is left-brained. She thinks in black and white, and is a 'law and order' type of person. Her apartment is probably very clean, and I bet she does not have any artsy type habits like poetry or painting. She also does not value creativity as much as a right-brained person, so your off the wall comment did not hit home.
Also, ****roaches are not funny. Try weasels or chickens next time.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Dude, you can get that for free online once a year from each of the credit bureaus.sexxyback said:
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
6-heads lewis
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try this next time: hey nice shirt, ya I had the same one until my dad got a job!
thats a ****y and funny classic!
You gotta recognize that being ****y and funny has it's time and place, and, more concisely, you need to CALIBRATE.
When she's talking fairly strongly about what she does and how it is, it's usually best to keep with the conversation. Not so that you can get "left-brained" with her, which of course doesn't maximize the attraction mechanisms, but stay with her to a point to at least show her that you can relate to her level of living.
In this case, I don't think it would've hurt to tell her what you did and what you like about it, as well as a brief description of what it's about.
Calibrate, calibrate, calibrate. This alone, when mastered, can take you outside of the need to question why your "C&F" routine didn't work in situations where having done without would've been more effective.
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To your level.
And girls know it.
Bam-you just blew yourself out.
Real DJ's don't need to bring others down or insult them in order to seduce them.
ExploringOne
Don Juan
As far as law enforcement goes, they have to get a subpoena, and again, there is a record of the actions, if they are unlawful, without cause, again you can sue.
Currently I don't know though, with the patriot acts, it's hard to know what exactly the government can, and can't do without going through a procedure.
Still, I can assure you, if this girl had an ounce of brains, she would not even think about checking your credit history. Now, your account balance, that's another story.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
It didn't work because it wasn't funny.sexxyback said: