"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
If a girl is a mortgage officer for a bank
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- Start date
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
her: I work at a bank and I do mortgages. Its kind of slow lately but it's still okay. I used to be an external loan originator and that was tough. You have to kiss butts from builders and realtors so they can refer you their clients.
What do you do for a living?
me: I work as a hand model for a major glove manufacturer. In my spare
time I do my Ph.D. research on the mating habits of the North American
****roach.
her: Well it was nice chatting with you! Have a wonderful night!
Bible_Belt
Master Don Juan
I'd guess she is left-brained. She thinks in black and white, and is a 'law and order' type of person. Her apartment is probably very clean, and I bet she does not have any artsy type habits like poetry or painting. She also does not value creativity as much as a right-brained person, so your off the wall comment did not hit home.
Also, ****roaches are not funny. Try weasels or chickens next time.
Francisco d'Anconia
Master Don Juan
Dude, you can get that for free online once a year from each of the credit bureaus.sexxyback said:
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.
6-heads lewis
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try this next time: hey nice shirt, ya I had the same one until my dad got a job!
thats a ****y and funny classic!
You gotta recognize that being ****y and funny has it's time and place, and, more concisely, you need to CALIBRATE.
When she's talking fairly strongly about what she does and how it is, it's usually best to keep with the conversation. Not so that you can get "left-brained" with her, which of course doesn't maximize the attraction mechanisms, but stay with her to a point to at least show her that you can relate to her level of living.
In this case, I don't think it would've hurt to tell her what you did and what you like about it, as well as a brief description of what it's about.
Calibrate, calibrate, calibrate. This alone, when mastered, can take you outside of the need to question why your "C&F" routine didn't work in situations where having done without would've been more effective.
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To your level.
And girls know it.
Bam-you just blew yourself out.
Real DJ's don't need to bring others down or insult them in order to seduce them.
ExploringOne
Don Juan
As far as law enforcement goes, they have to get a subpoena, and again, there is a record of the actions, if they are unlawful, without cause, again you can sue.
Currently I don't know though, with the patriot acts, it's hard to know what exactly the government can, and can't do without going through a procedure.
Still, I can assure you, if this girl had an ounce of brains, she would not even think about checking your credit history. Now, your account balance, that's another story.
"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
MetalFortress
Master Don Juan
It didn't work because it wasn't funny.sexxyback said: