When I touched her shoulder it was like I could sense she was freezing up, like I didn't know if it was cuz she was nervous and liked it, or just didn't like it. I generally get positive female reactions to me cuz of my shape, (i never got it before when i was out of shape), if that helps you guys maybe understand the situation better.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
If a girl freezes when you touch her shoulder is this a good or bad sign?
- Thread starter nando
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"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Technical1
Senior Don Juan
this is a good sign. if you want to understand how women react to the world, think about how AFCs react to the world. When I was AFC, the girl I wanted most asked me "Do you want a girlfriend?" and I said "No." and looked at the ground! That was 5 years ago, now I would have kinoed her and given a playful answer. Younger and shy women act like total AFCs, you have to initiate every step, but they will let you progress, because they want it like a fvcking wolf wants raw meat. Women's reaction pattern, unless they are mature, have game, and experience with men, is EXACTLY like an male AFCs, in my experience. When I approach a shy girl, I think, she has the same AFC complex that I had all my life till now. Take the lead and liberate her from her fears!
War Against Betaism
Master Don Juan
Picture yourself in her shoes when you were an AFC. If this really hot girl that you liked touched your shoulder, you would probably react the same. This is a good thing.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
MooseGod
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I dunno...there's this really ugly fat chick I work with and she'll try to touch me on the shoulder or something when she walks by and I freeze out of horror and disgust. So it could be a good thing or a bad thing...
penkitten
Master Don Juan
perhaps she isnt used to people just walking up and touching her?
i dont think it means anything but simple reaction.
i dont think it means anything but simple reaction.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
nando said:
Doesn't sound like a good sign. If a girl really liked you and touched you on the shoulder and you froze up, do you think it was because you wanted to sleep her? Do you think she would think "wow, this guy is really into me by freezing up!"
Kev07
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What the fvck? Overanalyze much?