SgtSplacker
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do you tell her?
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
If a girl asks you what you make...
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"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
5string
Master Don Juan
Her......How much do you make?
You.....Usually, 3-4 dozen chocolate chip cookies. Come on over honey.
You.....Usually, 3-4 dozen chocolate chip cookies. Come on over honey.
zekko
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I was raised that it was gauche to discuss how much you make or how much money you have. So I never discuss my financial particulars with anyone, I'm not going to do it just because of a pretty face.
In contrast, a friend of mine recently got a higher paying position, and he was going around telling every one who would listen what his new salary was. He was bragging, and it's distasteful (and he still doesn't make as much as I do, in case you think it's jealousy).
In contrast, a friend of mine recently got a higher paying position, and he was going around telling every one who would listen what his new salary was. He was bragging, and it's distasteful (and he still doesn't make as much as I do, in case you think it's jealousy).
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
Not only is it a red flag, it's a 4 foot wide red laser beam pointed to the moon. Guess what's on her mind: Cha-ching! Bad sign, brother.
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BeDJ
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5string is right on the money.
The question has much more implications. Most guys would fall head over heels for an opportunity to impress her.
The question has much more implications. Most guys would fall head over heels for an opportunity to impress her.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Sneevox
Senior Don Juan
"How much do you make?"
"Enough to keep me sustained. How about you?"
Be vague.
"Enough to keep me sustained. How about you?"
Be vague.
In more than 20 years of dating I've never had a woman ask me how much money I made. A couple of times as a self-employed white-collar professional I've had women ask what my hourly billing rate was (I said "It depends") but that's only happened once or twice and that was because we were specifically discussing something about my work, and I'd already known them for months or years.
bluenorther
Senior Don Juan
I only tell women what I'm going to charge them to put shoes on their horses. They can guess whatever they want after that.
"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
No matter how much you make she will wish it was more. I had one girl find an offer letter I got for $145k salary plus benefits and she was disappointed that was all I made. She said "Some guys make $650k". I said who, gangsters?
Who Dares Win
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Danger said:
Yep then divide by 3 what you say, multiply by 5 what she says and you get the accurate answer.
Or was it for the number of sexual partners?
MrNiceGuy23
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"Enough."
No reason to be any more precise than that. If she is actually interested in you, she can come with her own assumptions of how financially stable you are based on your spending throughout the relationship, your car, your home, etc.
If that's one of the first questions asked, she's after you for one thing, drop her.
No reason to be any more precise than that. If she is actually interested in you, she can come with her own assumptions of how financially stable you are based on your spending throughout the relationship, your car, your home, etc.
If that's one of the first questions asked, she's after you for one thing, drop her.
“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”
You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.
I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.
Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.
These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.