SgtSplacker
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do you tell her?
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
If a girl asks you what you make...
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"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
5string
Master Don Juan
Her......How much do you make?
You.....Usually, 3-4 dozen chocolate chip cookies. Come on over honey.
You.....Usually, 3-4 dozen chocolate chip cookies. Come on over honey.
zekko
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I was raised that it was gauche to discuss how much you make or how much money you have. So I never discuss my financial particulars with anyone, I'm not going to do it just because of a pretty face.
In contrast, a friend of mine recently got a higher paying position, and he was going around telling every one who would listen what his new salary was. He was bragging, and it's distasteful (and he still doesn't make as much as I do, in case you think it's jealousy).
In contrast, a friend of mine recently got a higher paying position, and he was going around telling every one who would listen what his new salary was. He was bragging, and it's distasteful (and he still doesn't make as much as I do, in case you think it's jealousy).
VladPatton
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Not only is it a red flag, it's a 4 foot wide red laser beam pointed to the moon. Guess what's on her mind: Cha-ching! Bad sign, brother.
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BeDJ
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5string is right on the money.
The question has much more implications. Most guys would fall head over heels for an opportunity to impress her.
The question has much more implications. Most guys would fall head over heels for an opportunity to impress her.
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Sneevox
Senior Don Juan
"How much do you make?"
"Enough to keep me sustained. How about you?"
Be vague.
"Enough to keep me sustained. How about you?"
Be vague.
In more than 20 years of dating I've never had a woman ask me how much money I made. A couple of times as a self-employed white-collar professional I've had women ask what my hourly billing rate was (I said "It depends") but that's only happened once or twice and that was because we were specifically discussing something about my work, and I'd already known them for months or years.
bluenorther
Senior Don Juan
I only tell women what I'm going to charge them to put shoes on their horses. They can guess whatever they want after that.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
No matter how much you make she will wish it was more. I had one girl find an offer letter I got for $145k salary plus benefits and she was disappointed that was all I made. She said "Some guys make $650k". I said who, gangsters?
Who Dares Win
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Danger said:
Yep then divide by 3 what you say, multiply by 5 what she says and you get the accurate answer.
Or was it for the number of sexual partners?
MrNiceGuy23
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"Enough."
No reason to be any more precise than that. If she is actually interested in you, she can come with her own assumptions of how financially stable you are based on your spending throughout the relationship, your car, your home, etc.
If that's one of the first questions asked, she's after you for one thing, drop her.
No reason to be any more precise than that. If she is actually interested in you, she can come with her own assumptions of how financially stable you are based on your spending throughout the relationship, your car, your home, etc.
If that's one of the first questions asked, she's after you for one thing, drop her.
"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"
When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.
Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.
Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.
The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.