SgtSplacker
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do you tell her?
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
If a girl asks you what you make...
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
5string
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Her......How much do you make?
You.....Usually, 3-4 dozen chocolate chip cookies. Come on over honey.
You.....Usually, 3-4 dozen chocolate chip cookies. Come on over honey.
zekko
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I was raised that it was gauche to discuss how much you make or how much money you have. So I never discuss my financial particulars with anyone, I'm not going to do it just because of a pretty face.
In contrast, a friend of mine recently got a higher paying position, and he was going around telling every one who would listen what his new salary was. He was bragging, and it's distasteful (and he still doesn't make as much as I do, in case you think it's jealousy).
In contrast, a friend of mine recently got a higher paying position, and he was going around telling every one who would listen what his new salary was. He was bragging, and it's distasteful (and he still doesn't make as much as I do, in case you think it's jealousy).
VladPatton
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Not only is it a red flag, it's a 4 foot wide red laser beam pointed to the moon. Guess what's on her mind: Cha-ching! Bad sign, brother.
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BeDJ
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5string is right on the money.
The question has much more implications. Most guys would fall head over heels for an opportunity to impress her.
The question has much more implications. Most guys would fall head over heels for an opportunity to impress her.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Sneevox
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"How much do you make?"
"Enough to keep me sustained. How about you?"
Be vague.
"Enough to keep me sustained. How about you?"
Be vague.
In more than 20 years of dating I've never had a woman ask me how much money I made. A couple of times as a self-employed white-collar professional I've had women ask what my hourly billing rate was (I said "It depends") but that's only happened once or twice and that was because we were specifically discussing something about my work, and I'd already known them for months or years.
bluenorther
Senior Don Juan
I only tell women what I'm going to charge them to put shoes on their horses. They can guess whatever they want after that.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
No matter how much you make she will wish it was more. I had one girl find an offer letter I got for $145k salary plus benefits and she was disappointed that was all I made. She said "Some guys make $650k". I said who, gangsters?
Who Dares Win
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Danger said:
Yep then divide by 3 what you say, multiply by 5 what she says and you get the accurate answer.
Or was it for the number of sexual partners?
MrNiceGuy23
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"Enough."
No reason to be any more precise than that. If she is actually interested in you, she can come with her own assumptions of how financially stable you are based on your spending throughout the relationship, your car, your home, etc.
If that's one of the first questions asked, she's after you for one thing, drop her.
No reason to be any more precise than that. If she is actually interested in you, she can come with her own assumptions of how financially stable you are based on your spending throughout the relationship, your car, your home, etc.
If that's one of the first questions asked, she's after you for one thing, drop her.
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