"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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"i'd rather go out with you"

andee

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so what would that translate to? the girl was talking about how this creep is asking her out, and she tells me "i told him he's not my type. i even told him that i wouldnt even consider him a rebound. i'd rather go out with you"

does this mean anything? she tells me how "she isnt like other girls" but im sure all the girls say that. id love to beleive that she is different than other girls so i dont have to decipher anything she says.

also does anyone think that being the middle child may have anything to do with being a ***** for attention? she's the middle child and it makes me wonder if she's (unconsciously) just incredibly friendly and nice so she can get the attention of males.

she's told me how back in a few years before she's transferred to my college how she would just stop contact with guys who were so sweet to her cos she was afraid of falling for them or something, could this indicate a bad thing for me since if she was so into me she'd stop talking to me or LJBFed me already? she says among all the guys she knows, im the only one who isnt nice to her, which i took it as a good thing.

oh yeah, she has a bf but thats in another post: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=143672
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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You're digging into this wayy too much. If you like her then say, "Go out with me then" or if you want to play cat and mouse a bit say, "You're not that lucky yet"
 

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it translate into you having no confidence. you should be telling us what you did and what the results were. not asking us what it meant.
 

Gangster Of Love

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She has a bf and says that, it can only mean one thing:

"this creep repulses me, so much, that I would go with anybody else instead of him, even you."
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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Guybrush

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It means you are the next worst possible option, and she'd even go out with you (a chump in her eyes), than date the other chump she's talking about.

Get up ! You are trapped in the LJBF zone, forget this girl and move on!
 

DJDamage

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Gangster Of Love said:
She has a bf and says that, it can only mean one thing:

"this creep repulses me, so much, that I would go with anybody else instead of him, even you."
oh man that is harsh but accurate.

I would have called her on her sh1t right there and busted on her for making me feel like left over chopped liver and onions.

"What are you saying? are you saying that I am a tad less repulsive then this guy? you sure do know how to make a guy feel good about himself"
 

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Warrior74 said:
it translate into you having no confidence. you should be telling us what you did and what the results were. not asking us what it meant.

well i dont remember, it was quite a while back. a while after we just kept doing things together and i remember one time she planned out something and told me "u better not stand me up, we've been going out for a while!" and somehow i managed to stand her up in accident but that was totally her fault.

anyways, i over-analyze what she said in the past too much, i should focusing on what she is saying now.
 

Sir Juanalot

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What tone of voice was it delivered in?

I mean, theres "i'd rather go out with you" doggy eyes and smile, and "i'd rather go out with you" looks like she just trod in dog turd.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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