"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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"i'd rather go out with you"

andee

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so what would that translate to? the girl was talking about how this creep is asking her out, and she tells me "i told him he's not my type. i even told him that i wouldnt even consider him a rebound. i'd rather go out with you"

does this mean anything? she tells me how "she isnt like other girls" but im sure all the girls say that. id love to beleive that she is different than other girls so i dont have to decipher anything she says.

also does anyone think that being the middle child may have anything to do with being a ***** for attention? she's the middle child and it makes me wonder if she's (unconsciously) just incredibly friendly and nice so she can get the attention of males.

she's told me how back in a few years before she's transferred to my college how she would just stop contact with guys who were so sweet to her cos she was afraid of falling for them or something, could this indicate a bad thing for me since if she was so into me she'd stop talking to me or LJBFed me already? she says among all the guys she knows, im the only one who isnt nice to her, which i took it as a good thing.

oh yeah, she has a bf but thats in another post: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=143672
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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You're digging into this wayy too much. If you like her then say, "Go out with me then" or if you want to play cat and mouse a bit say, "You're not that lucky yet"
 

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it translate into you having no confidence. you should be telling us what you did and what the results were. not asking us what it meant.
 

Gangster Of Love

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She has a bf and says that, it can only mean one thing:

"this creep repulses me, so much, that I would go with anybody else instead of him, even you."
 

“The 22 Rules That Turned Me From Invisible to Irresistible With Women… Starting Tonight”

You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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It means you are the next worst possible option, and she'd even go out with you (a chump in her eyes), than date the other chump she's talking about.

Get up ! You are trapped in the LJBF zone, forget this girl and move on!
 

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Gangster Of Love said:
She has a bf and says that, it can only mean one thing:

"this creep repulses me, so much, that I would go with anybody else instead of him, even you."
oh man that is harsh but accurate.

I would have called her on her sh1t right there and busted on her for making me feel like left over chopped liver and onions.

"What are you saying? are you saying that I am a tad less repulsive then this guy? you sure do know how to make a guy feel good about himself"
 

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Warrior74 said:
it translate into you having no confidence. you should be telling us what you did and what the results were. not asking us what it meant.

well i dont remember, it was quite a while back. a while after we just kept doing things together and i remember one time she planned out something and told me "u better not stand me up, we've been going out for a while!" and somehow i managed to stand her up in accident but that was totally her fault.

anyways, i over-analyze what she said in the past too much, i should focusing on what she is saying now.
 

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What tone of voice was it delivered in?

I mean, theres "i'd rather go out with you" doggy eyes and smile, and "i'd rather go out with you" looks like she just trod in dog turd.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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