"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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"i'd rather go out with you"

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so what would that translate to? the girl was talking about how this creep is asking her out, and she tells me "i told him he's not my type. i even told him that i wouldnt even consider him a rebound. i'd rather go out with you"

does this mean anything? she tells me how "she isnt like other girls" but im sure all the girls say that. id love to beleive that she is different than other girls so i dont have to decipher anything she says.

also does anyone think that being the middle child may have anything to do with being a ***** for attention? she's the middle child and it makes me wonder if she's (unconsciously) just incredibly friendly and nice so she can get the attention of males.

she's told me how back in a few years before she's transferred to my college how she would just stop contact with guys who were so sweet to her cos she was afraid of falling for them or something, could this indicate a bad thing for me since if she was so into me she'd stop talking to me or LJBFed me already? she says among all the guys she knows, im the only one who isnt nice to her, which i took it as a good thing.

oh yeah, she has a bf but thats in another post: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=143672
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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You're digging into this wayy too much. If you like her then say, "Go out with me then" or if you want to play cat and mouse a bit say, "You're not that lucky yet"
 

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it translate into you having no confidence. you should be telling us what you did and what the results were. not asking us what it meant.
 

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She has a bf and says that, it can only mean one thing:

"this creep repulses me, so much, that I would go with anybody else instead of him, even you."
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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It means you are the next worst possible option, and she'd even go out with you (a chump in her eyes), than date the other chump she's talking about.

Get up ! You are trapped in the LJBF zone, forget this girl and move on!
 

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Gangster Of Love said:
She has a bf and says that, it can only mean one thing:

"this creep repulses me, so much, that I would go with anybody else instead of him, even you."
oh man that is harsh but accurate.

I would have called her on her sh1t right there and busted on her for making me feel like left over chopped liver and onions.

"What are you saying? are you saying that I am a tad less repulsive then this guy? you sure do know how to make a guy feel good about himself"
 

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Warrior74 said:
it translate into you having no confidence. you should be telling us what you did and what the results were. not asking us what it meant.

well i dont remember, it was quite a while back. a while after we just kept doing things together and i remember one time she planned out something and told me "u better not stand me up, we've been going out for a while!" and somehow i managed to stand her up in accident but that was totally her fault.

anyways, i over-analyze what she said in the past too much, i should focusing on what she is saying now.
 

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What tone of voice was it delivered in?

I mean, theres "i'd rather go out with you" doggy eyes and smile, and "i'd rather go out with you" looks like she just trod in dog turd.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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