"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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"i'd rather go out with you"

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so what would that translate to? the girl was talking about how this creep is asking her out, and she tells me "i told him he's not my type. i even told him that i wouldnt even consider him a rebound. i'd rather go out with you"

does this mean anything? she tells me how "she isnt like other girls" but im sure all the girls say that. id love to beleive that she is different than other girls so i dont have to decipher anything she says.

also does anyone think that being the middle child may have anything to do with being a ***** for attention? she's the middle child and it makes me wonder if she's (unconsciously) just incredibly friendly and nice so she can get the attention of males.

she's told me how back in a few years before she's transferred to my college how she would just stop contact with guys who were so sweet to her cos she was afraid of falling for them or something, could this indicate a bad thing for me since if she was so into me she'd stop talking to me or LJBFed me already? she says among all the guys she knows, im the only one who isnt nice to her, which i took it as a good thing.

oh yeah, she has a bf but thats in another post: http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=143672
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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You're digging into this wayy too much. If you like her then say, "Go out with me then" or if you want to play cat and mouse a bit say, "You're not that lucky yet"
 

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it translate into you having no confidence. you should be telling us what you did and what the results were. not asking us what it meant.
 

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She has a bf and says that, it can only mean one thing:

"this creep repulses me, so much, that I would go with anybody else instead of him, even you."
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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It means you are the next worst possible option, and she'd even go out with you (a chump in her eyes), than date the other chump she's talking about.

Get up ! You are trapped in the LJBF zone, forget this girl and move on!
 

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Gangster Of Love said:
She has a bf and says that, it can only mean one thing:

"this creep repulses me, so much, that I would go with anybody else instead of him, even you."
oh man that is harsh but accurate.

I would have called her on her sh1t right there and busted on her for making me feel like left over chopped liver and onions.

"What are you saying? are you saying that I am a tad less repulsive then this guy? you sure do know how to make a guy feel good about himself"
 

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Warrior74 said:
it translate into you having no confidence. you should be telling us what you did and what the results were. not asking us what it meant.

well i dont remember, it was quite a while back. a while after we just kept doing things together and i remember one time she planned out something and told me "u better not stand me up, we've been going out for a while!" and somehow i managed to stand her up in accident but that was totally her fault.

anyways, i over-analyze what she said in the past too much, i should focusing on what she is saying now.
 

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What tone of voice was it delivered in?

I mean, theres "i'd rather go out with you" doggy eyes and smile, and "i'd rather go out with you" looks like she just trod in dog turd.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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