Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
That is the #1 excuse that every AFC and/or Virgin uses.edger said:I guess I'll take that back. Some pics she looks good in and others not so good. I'd actually have to see and access her in person to come to a conclusion about whether she in my opinion fits into the "hot" category. Pics don't really do anyone justice.
I'm a very picky guy, that's also why I haven't gotten laid in a while(except by a bunch of HOT escorts). The smallest things about a woman will turn me off. If she doesn't have a certain type of legs and she's a bit bow legged, I'll get turned off. If her breasts aren't a certain size or if they're too big, I'll get turned off. If she walks or talks a certain way, I'll get turned off. If she dresses a certain way, I'll get turned off. And the list goes on.
Wow, you know your sh*t.ChrizZ said:That is the #1 excuse that every AFC and/or Virgin uses.
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.
DrD77DrD77 said:i think i would rather do the wife for some reason.
You have VERY low standards. No wonder you have problems finding HOT young women.edger said:I'd definitely hit that.
I understand Pfizer has a pill to help you with that. Ask Bob Dole about it, apparently it let him get excited about HIS wife and if it did that it's better than LSD.edger said:.... she doesn't have a certain type of legs and she's a bit bow legged, I'll get turned off. If her breasts aren't a certain size or if they're too big, I'll get turned off. If she walks or talks a certain way, I'll get turned off. If she dresses a certain way, I'll get turned off. And the list goes on.
Sexy is as sexy does. I bet she was worth every penny for what she did, and what she didn't do (make a scene) for him. Money has different value to people of different incomes. Some people find the $250K Bentley to be a real bargain in automobiles.Rollo Tomassi said:..... OK, hot, but,..$80K hot? I dunno,...
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Again, "beauty is in the eye of the beholder" in this case with me. That picture I posted of her, I think she looks hot in it.Latinoman said:You have VERY low standards.
Hahaha.bigjohnson said:I understand Pfizer has a pill to help you with that. Ask Bob Dole about it, apparently it let him get excited about HIS wife and if it did that it's better than LSD.
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.