"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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I would rather be a loser than a fool

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This probably will be different for a post but I will be totally honest. The fact that one has to "not be themselves" "not show to much feeling" " Act" according the the "plan", show beyond a shadow of a doubt that the male/female relationship is one of ultimate incompatibility. I consider myself somewhat deep. I understand keeping things interesting and coming up with new exciting approaches, but even sometimes traveling is fun but it is good to come home eventually, if you understand. I do not claim to have all the answers and I am not gay but women are not compatible. I guesss that is why so many "jerks" are created. Yes it sucks but then look at the condition of the world, marriages overall. Its broke. Just the facts.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Good point. I am getting into a new relationship after a few years of marriage. It seems nothing has changed. Just not a player. That is not the quality of life I am looking for. I confess I do read and get some benefits from some of the stuff here. However, it is still a psych game unfortunately.
 

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Exactly. I am not a pessimist. I am realistic though. You basically have to live in a denial of your personhood to some degree to be don juan. Women are challenging to say it nicely.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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there is no personhood, you're whomever you want to be.

To me, what I "am" is merely a set of steps to get what I want. I don't care what I "am," I care what I want and I'm willing to "be" whatever allows me to most efficiently get what I want. My identity is not fixed.

I mean, if you break it way down, "you" are merely a stepping stone for genetic code to pass from the past to the future.
 
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