"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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I would rather be a loser than a fool

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This probably will be different for a post but I will be totally honest. The fact that one has to "not be themselves" "not show to much feeling" " Act" according the the "plan", show beyond a shadow of a doubt that the male/female relationship is one of ultimate incompatibility. I consider myself somewhat deep. I understand keeping things interesting and coming up with new exciting approaches, but even sometimes traveling is fun but it is good to come home eventually, if you understand. I do not claim to have all the answers and I am not gay but women are not compatible. I guesss that is why so many "jerks" are created. Yes it sucks but then look at the condition of the world, marriages overall. Its broke. Just the facts.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Good point. I am getting into a new relationship after a few years of marriage. It seems nothing has changed. Just not a player. That is not the quality of life I am looking for. I confess I do read and get some benefits from some of the stuff here. However, it is still a psych game unfortunately.
 

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Exactly. I am not a pessimist. I am realistic though. You basically have to live in a denial of your personhood to some degree to be don juan. Women are challenging to say it nicely.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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there is no personhood, you're whomever you want to be.

To me, what I "am" is merely a set of steps to get what I want. I don't care what I "am," I care what I want and I'm willing to "be" whatever allows me to most efficiently get what I want. My identity is not fixed.

I mean, if you break it way down, "you" are merely a stepping stone for genetic code to pass from the past to the future.
 
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