"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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JohnChops

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why guys must be glued... i mean GLUED to their girlfriends at all times, 25/7, all day every day. Its getting insane. Example - me and my friends are heading out tonight to get some black friday tech shopping done and they invite their girlfriend :down: Just why? Everywhere I go I swear they must bring their tagalongs with them. I literally have one friend who has my mentality. This is just getting ridiculous now. Its not even my friends I see it everywhere! Even at the gym, this guy is teaching this girl how to squat, then they talk forever taking up the god damn squat rack.... come on guys have some fvcking dignity! I feel like they think a woman is some kind of reward, a prize, that they won and want to wear on their shoulder. ERRRRRRRRR Wrong. Thats how you think when your desperate, you are the prize. IF these guys understood that then the world would be a better place.

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"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Its hard to be in love if your ignore each other. I see nothing wrong with bringing your GF or wife. My wife acts like "one of the guys".

Its great that they are figuring out ways to be together. To maintain a romantic relationship you need to spend 15 hours a week of UNDIVIDED attention. NO friends .. no TV, no kids .. no distractions. Just you and her ... meeting the top 4 intimate needs of affection, recreational companionship, sexual fulfillment, and intimate conversation.

Sure there is times when I dont do things with my wife and only do things with my friends, but ONLY after i have done some "relationship maintenance".

When people are in new relationships .. they will tend to want to spend time together because they are in love ... you become irresistable to each other when your in love. And I dont mean "in love" just wanting to get your **** wet or "in lust" ... i mean .. REALLY in love.

Or .. maybe your just jealous? *shrugs* lol
 

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Well i guess their girlfriends have their balls in their purses .... this is the only explanation !!
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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Epimanes said:
Its hard to be in love if your ignore each other. I see nothing wrong with bringing your GF or wife. My wife acts like "one of the guys".

Its great that they are figuring out ways to be together. To maintain a romantic relationship you need to spend 15 hours a week of UNDIVIDED attention. NO friends .. no TV, no kids .. no distractions. Just you and her ... meeting the top 4 intimate needs of affection, recreational companionship, sexual fulfillment, and intimate conversation.

Sure there is times when I dont do things with my wife and only do things with my friends, but ONLY after i have done some "relationship maintenance".

When people are in new relationships .. they will tend to want to spend time together because they are in love ... you become irresistable to each other when your in love. And I dont mean "in love" just wanting to get your **** wet or "in lust" ... i mean .. REALLY in love.

Or .. maybe your just jealous? *shrugs* lol
the bold part is the kind of retort I expect froma female. in essence I think this is what being in love does, it feminises the male
 

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it feminises the male

So do girls that fall in love with men masculinize the female? Would men and women be better off if they were to ignore contact with each other to retain their masculinity/femininity?
 

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betheman said:
the bold part is the kind of retort I expect froma female. in essence I think this is what being in love does, it feminises the male

epimanes is a female....put his faggot post into this site and you will see.http://bookblog.net/gender/genie.php

398:134...female!
 

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Upside said:
it feminises the male

So do girls that fall in love with men masculinize the female? Would men and women be better off if they were to ignore contact with each other to retain their masculinity/femininity?
you have got that the wrong way round but I get what you mean, the answer...no, women do not become more masculine, they do become more confident and bolder, masculine traits indeed but, they are feeding off having a male alongside...any male really. we cant avoid contact, that would be silly but as a man, the trick is, retaining your balls, too many men give them up, Ive been there and am as guilty as anyone...keep hold of the twins
 

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Stop whining OP and use this to your advantage. Tell them the only way you will go is if she brings a cute friend for you.

This is how you win.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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