"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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right now I don't think my head is right to be meeting women. A few days ago, I met this woman. Very pretty and very traditional. BUT I am not attracted to her. I had to simmer on this for a bit. I kept thinking, why am I not attracted to her. She's close by, she's shown interest, and she'd probably be good to date with. Yet I am not attracted to her.

Then I met another girl who is just fvcking hot. I made a move on her when I was drunk, and I got D-nyied. Then enters her friend on to the scene. Also she is very hot. And Available.

But the thing is with girl #3, I've not really been turned down, but I know that she is a)high maintainance, and b)attracted to someone else.

Maybe it's because I am a tad competitive, or I think it's because I am still sorting out all the crap I left behind this year (It was a real stinker right up to the very hour I left Canada). Maybe it was all the alcohol I drank last night. I have onitis.

In my drunken self-loathing desperation, I played a card that I have a rule to never play because it's an act of desperation. I played the rich guy card, when her friend told me she dumped a guy who had an average income. I told her friend that my family has a big business back home so money isn't a problem.

I feel like **** cause I am hung over, and I have oneitis, and I broke my most sacred rule for dating.

I have a very strong feeling that trying to bed hottie #3 is going to be a long pointless journey. Honestly, I've seen this movie before and I don't like how it usually ends.

I have so much mental **** to sort through right now I don't even think I should be having anything to do with women in the mean time.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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We all have ups and downs. Just get back on the right mind set.
 

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THanks IAFYB.

I think I must work out more. and crank up the C+F. Also I need to decide what the fvck I am doing. I have no Idea.
 

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Update:

I took a weekend trip to a sunny beach resort and ended up meeting a new chick. It took me a whole 69 hours to get over my oneitis. New world record.
 
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